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[Thrive]

                                               Hi,

I would like a little advice please.  My husband and I went away on a mini vacation.  While we were on the road, my husband received a voice text to his car that my cousin who we knew was in hospice passed away.  The text came from my sister.  I have MS so stress is difficult for me.  In her text, she noted to my husband to tell me when he thought it was appropriate.  I found this to be strange because she had already sent me a personal message earlier that morning.  I just discovered it today. We have been back home for one day. I kept my smart phone turned off during the trip.  We usually leave his phone on because of our son who might need to reach us.  A couple of days later she sent a final arrangement email to my husband.  I simply don't understand why the emails could not have waited.  We are now back home and the service will not be for another eight days.  I don't understand why she needed to put a damper on our vacation when the news could have waited. When we arrived home, I sent her an email that stated we had a peaceful vacation.  I told her previously that I would send an email when we arrived home safely.  I guess I just don't understand the urgency. I think that she may be angry because I didn't send a response to any of her messages.  She usually calls nightly.  However, she has not called the past two nights.  What do you think about this situation?

[GenXmuse]

No words. 

[Marp]

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@GenXmuse wrote:

No words. 

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I have words but I'm going to keep them to myself.

[Anonymous032819]

Gee, most people would want to know right away that a family member had passed, vacation or no vacation, and would be mad if the messenger had waited until the recipient had returned home from vacation before getting the news.

[Thrive]

Thank you for being considerate.  If I am wrong, then I glady accept any opinion.

[phoenixbrd]

@Thrive Forgive her....she was stressed by the devastating news and as a family member thought you would be alarmed if she hadn't reached you.  When close family passes usually they inform family....totally understandable.  I am sorry for your loss. The urgency was that your cousin had passed. Show up at the services with condolences and thank your sister for calling you.  

[Thrive]

Thank you!

[Thrive]

Thank you!

[september]

I have words. @Thrive  Perhaps you’ve never been in a situation where you had to deliver the news of a loved ones passing.  

Those of us who have been there, have been grieving and under a great deal of stress.  The last thing on my mind, would have been whether or not I was ruining someone’s vacation. 

[Thrive]

Yes, you are right.  I guess it was my way of trying to avoid hearing something so awful.