Touchy Subject - Page 4

sylviahomeatlast · ‎03-11-2010

Why does she even know something personal, private about you? I don't tell people private things that I don't want want them to know...

Thrive · ‎08-03-2011

There was a loss in the family and my son who gets a hair cut there happened to mention it. I am a private person and I do not share private issues and certainly not hurtful ones.

Topaz Gem · ‎03-10-2010

You could just nicely gloss it over by saying, "Well, nothing has changed since the last time you asked me, but guess what? (this is where you bring up something positive, like...) I'm going on a trip to Bermuda and can't wait to relax on the beach." Like another poster mentioned, try to divert the conversation immediately, but in a nice way, then it won't flag her that it's a sensitive subject. Bringing up something positive that you're looking forward to will signal to her that you've moved on.

I agree with others who say she is just trying to make small talk and is bringing that subject up because it's one that she remembers about you. I don't think she even realizes that she's throwing salt in an old wound.

"Summer afternoon-summer afternoon; to me those have always been the two most beautiful words in the English language." ~Henry James

Thrive · ‎08-03-2011

Topaz,

I love this! It doesn't give her any indication about how hurtful it is and it doesn't come off as being rude. It shows that I am moving on and that she needs to do the same. In fact, during my next appointment I could mention a cruise that I will be taking. This is a great idea!

Topaz Gem · ‎03-10-2010

On 3/9/2015 Furry said:
Topaz,

I love this! It doesn't give her any indication about how hurtful it is and it doesn't come off as being rude. It shows that I am moving on and that she needs to do the same. In fact, during my next appointment I could mention a cruise that I will be taking. This is a great idea!

Hopefully this will do the trick, but if she continues to bring up the touchy subject over and over again at future appointments, then you'll finally have to lay down the law, like Terrier and others have suggested.

Good luck and keep us posted! Smile

"Summer afternoon-summer afternoon; to me those have always been the two most beautiful words in the English language." ~Henry James

KathyPet · ‎03-09-2010

You just need to tell her it is a difficult matter to talk about so you would prefer bot to. I hardly think that is giving away too much of your personal feelings. it is one sentence. say it and be done with it.

VioletEyes · ‎03-12-2010

On 3/9/2015 KathyPet said: well you must have told her about it or she would not have found out about it to start with so ""sharing too much of your personal feelings"" has already happened. You simply need to say that it is a difficult matter for you to discuss so you would prefer not to have it brought up. For heaven's sakes it's one sentence you have to say.

The OP said that her son told her about it. Post 31.

Thrive · ‎08-03-2011

My son said it after the loss of my oldest son. He went there to get a haircut for the services.

VioletEyes · ‎03-12-2010

On 3/9/2015 Furry said:
My son said it after the loss of my oldest son. He went there to get a haircut for the services.

Furry, I am so sorry for your loss.

I can understand why you want the topic dropped. Personally, I think I would just change hairdressers, it would just make it somewhat easier without ever having the topic brought up again by this woman.

You are very kind to worry about her feelings and are willing, though, to give her another chance.