Re: Therapist Issue

Ladygray · ‎06-18-2017

@pdlinda wrote:
@Ladygray What you describe is really outrageous and very disturbing!

During my career I used EAP counselling services several times and the professional I selected to help me assisted me greatly. Of course, that was before COVID so things were handled in person.

Please give thought to the ramifications of you reporting her behavior to the insurance company. Her license might be placed in jeopardy after 30 years of her professional service. From her perspective, your very detailed rendition of what occurred between you might turn into a situation whereby what you experienced is reported by her to be a total "misunderstanding" and/or "misperception" of the truth.

Did you per chance record any of the calls (therapy sessions) where these incidents took place?

No, I didn't record anything, never thought to. There is legality issues with that in my state.

I'm not going to report her to anyone... my only choice is to tell her I'm bothered by her behavior or just stop using her and try and find and start up again with someone else.

Mistreatedbycs · ‎03-10-2010

@Ladygray I had very similar issues years ago and did report an outside contractor to the insurance company. It actually back fired on me, the insurance company called the HR Manager and I was brought into the office.

It was very upsetting to me and the best and very best thing to do is actually find another job. Sad to say but your boss is going no where and you are disposable.

So if you don't want to leave, I would advise you to change therapists for now. Your therapist is disrepecting you and why put up with it? It's not worth it.

Try another one and if that fails another one. No complaints at all about your current one, they all talk. Make up some excuse as to why you changed, never talk badly about anyone, trust me, it will bite you. I thought I was doing them (the company) a favor by more or less telling them they are literally getting ripped off by this contractor, oh my, it sure doesn't turn out like you think it will.

But overall, I left 2 jobs over bosses, no matter how bad they were, that's what the company wanted so I left. Years later I bought a business and I couldn't of been happier. Maybe that's also an option for you.

Your work is eating you up. It's not worth it, really. Just something to think about.

elated · ‎06-09-2010

After reading your posts, it seems you have self esteem issues. Why can't you find another job? Why are you sticking with a therapist that is demeaning? You seem to be making decisions that are not good for your well being. I don't know your age but sometimes we have the answers but are afraid to move on with our life. I do wish you the best but self care is the best medicine.

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

It's not easy to find a good therapist who you will click with. Just beacuse she many have a stellar background and qualifications does NOT mean that she is the right therapist for you!

If you can't meet in person, why not try zoom or telehealth?...some kind of video conference. This way she would have to focus on you. You can say that you just feel more comfortable than simply talking on the phone. Otherwise it's time for a change.

Nuttmeg · ‎03-09-2010

@Ladygray

Please find yourself someone else for treatment. This is an unfortunate situation, but sometimes things just don't work.

pdlinda · ‎10-23-2011

@Ladygray To avoid her possibly getting defensive and trying to "argue" that what you experienced didn't really happen the way you think it did, you might consider the latter choice you mention.

If you sever your professional relatioship with her and seek another provider, please don't forget you are under no obligation to give her a reason for your decision to discontinue seeing her. The best of luck to you!!

Kachina624 · ‎03-10-2010

I'd be insulted that she thinks your so stupid that you don't hear the background nose. Can you suggest that you'd like to have Skype or some other video sessions. She couldn't do errands on video. If she says no, then you have an excuse to fire her. Yes, I'd report her to whoever pays her. She's taking advantage.

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Ladygray · ‎06-18-2017

I'm 60. It's not easy to find another job. Plus I have a good pension from where I work that I never had before.

I wish it were that easy to go find another job. Right now, it's not for me. I support myself.

You don't know me well enough to know if I have self esteem issues. Just because I'm treated like ****** from my boss, doesn't mean it's because of me.

Ladygray · ‎06-18-2017

@haddon9 wrote:
It's not easy to find a good therapist who you will click with. Just beacuse she many have a stellar background and qualifications does NOT mean that she is the right therapist for you!

If you can't meet in person, why not try zoom or telehealth?...some kind of video conference. This way she would have to focus on you. You can say that you just feel more comfortable than simply talking on the phone. Otherwise it's time for a change.

I don't have a camera or video capabilities on my computer.

moonandthestars · ‎03-11-2010

@Ladygray I wasn't suggesting that you should confront your boss - that's a completely different thing. I just thought it might be helpful to you/your psyche /your confidence to say something to the therapist. Maybe especially since what you are going through with your boss is a situation where you really can't say anything - that this situation has reared it's head and is an opportunity to express youself. I can imagine you will leave this person and find another to work with. Personally I wouldn't report her, and even tho it's not an easy thing I think it's a better idea to tell her why you are leaving rather than just leave. It can be healthy to say something. Not always easy tho.