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[terrier3]

On 8/30/2014 kdgn said:

It would have served her right to have stepped out of the dressing room to be met by a couple of policemen.

The police have more important things to do than question a woman who made a rash statement. BTW, due to budget cuts, most police work alone now...not in pairs.

[VanSleepy]

While her actions and words were over the top, if I had to traipse all over the store looking for an employee to open the door, I might think I should be first, too. I wouldn't say anything, but I'd be thinking it!

[LilacTree]

On 8/31/2014 AngelPuppy1 said:

Some people are just naturally mean and aggressive and like to see how far they can push people. These people for the most part, are very unhappy people and love to make others unhappy. They seem to get some kind of pleasure out of causing distress and discord. To try and retaliate or one up them, does no good. Just adds fuel to the fire and escalates the situation. Although it's not fair that these people get to act this way, it's best to just give them a wide berth and let them have their way.

ITA. These people are not just mean, or have little patience . . . they have character faults that they were most likely born with. All the psychology in the world will not change them.

I have in the past been very close to three of them. They were and still are always like this.

[terrier3]

When I was a social worker in poor city neighborhoods, I was startled at first at the amount of day in, day out anger in encountered.

Parents whacking kids...spouses beating up on each other...people fighting and arguing over silly stuff like parking in front of someone's house...parents angry at teachers...EVERYONE angry at social workers.

In time, I came to realize it's how some people cope when they feel powerless and have no hope for a better future.

I used to also run a religious studies program in the suburbs. Every year at Thanksgiving, we collected food and then delivered it to families I worked with in the inner city. Sometimes people would say "thank you" for the donations...but often they were surly and angry - one time a woman actually THREW the cans at us as we left her porch. The suburban kids were appalled - they expected a scene out of a movie with grateful mothers and kids. I guess they were shocked at how the REAL situation was so different. I tried to explain that many people were embarrassed at taking "charity" and reacted in inappropriate ways (much as they did in other social situations).

Whenever I encounter rude, nasty, angry people....I just thank God I don't have underlying issues like they often have...and I give them WIDE berth!

[RedTop]

I often see this kind of behavior when I am out and about. Not knowing what is going on with that person, I just quickly ask God to help her with her problems and move on.

[occasionalrain]

On 8/30/2014 Colonel Meow said:

On 8/30/2014 occasional rain said:

On 8/30/2014 Colonel Meow said:

Speaking as a mental health professional, I really wish that folks would stop throwing that "crazy" word out, or speculating that this woman was "mentally ill". I realize that everyone here is probably saying these things in jest, but I don't think that most consider how harmful these stereotypes can be.

And btw - sometimes people (possibly this woman, even) are just mean, hateful witches. No need to slap a further diagnosis on them.

I sincerely hope your aren't involved in mental health with a statement like that.

Why?

You have no idea what's behind this woman's behavior, none. To diagnose her as just a mean, hateful, witch with just this limited, one time event is irresponsible and outrageous coming from a self proclaimed mental health professional.

[moonstone dunes]

I was at a register checking out at the local discount store when the manager came storming by with an armful of windshield wiper blades. They had been removed from their packages he was also carrying.

I was stunned when he said to the cashier "Look at this, these a*holes I'd like to use a machine gun on the jerks that did this!"

The clerk just laughed and agreed what a*holes the customers are! I found it rude and very unprofessional. And a bit scary! DH just said what do you expect from minimum wage workers.

[LilacTree]

On 8/31/2014 terrier3 said:

When I was a social worker in poor city neighborhoods, I was startled at first at the amount of day in, day out anger in encountered.

Parents whacking kids...spouses beating up on each other...people fighting and arguing over silly stuff like parking in front of someone's house...parents angry at teachers...EVERYONE angry at social workers.

In time, I came to realize it's how some people cope when they feel powerless and have no hope for a better future.

I used to also run a religious studies program in the suburbs. Every year at Thanksgiving, we collected food and then delivered it to families I worked with in the inner city. Sometimes people would say "thank you" for the donations...but often they were surly and angry - one time a woman actually THREW the cans at us as we left her porch. The suburban kids were appalled - they expected a scene out of a movie with grateful mothers and kids. I guess they were shocked at how the REAL situation was so different. I tried to explain that many people were embarrassed at taking "charity" and reacted in inappropriate ways (much as they did in other social situations).

Whenever I encounter rude, nasty, angry people....I just thank God I don't have underlying issues like they often have...and I give them WIDE berth!

You're so smart terrier3. It doesn't surprise me that you were a social worker.

[colliegirls]

Some people have a lot of issues/problems. I do not want to be involved with them on any level.

[sidsmom]

On 8/31/2014 terrier3 said:

On 8/30/2014 kdgn said:

It would have served her right to have stepped out of the dressing room to be met by a couple of policemen.

The police have more important things to do than question a woman who made a rash statement. BTW, due to budget cuts, most police work alone now...not in pairs.

The Police are there to defuse incidents like this. And yes, it is their job. My police officer SO sitting right next to me agrees.