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@petepetey wrote:

I don't like to be too pushy with people, especially my sister. That does that to me

and I hate it. She is the boss or thinks she is. 

In past years I knew she was bringing that pie and I would not make my traditional one. Not this year I'm making it!  

I never want to hurt anyones feelings. 

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Good for you!

We all know this has nothing to do with pie.

[missy1]

Let her bring it.

You make your pie.

[Cakers3]

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@aroc3435 wrote:

@petepetey 

My answer would be to let her just bring her pumpkin chiffon pie and you set out the other desserts of your choosing that you know the rest of your folks prefer.  

For some reason she wants to bring what she wants to bring--who knows why.  She has some reason for her choice but you may never know what it is.

As much as I love the Thanksgiving meal itself the most important thing to me has always been the gathering of family and friends.  Life is too short to bother your head over a dessert item.

Just enjoy the day and the blessing of having loved ones around you.  You never know when someone will be absent from the board in future years.

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@aroc3435  Perfect answer. 

@petepetey  It's not about the pie.  You know this.  What is more important-your sister or her pie.    The last sentence in this post needs emphasis.

[SahmIam]

@petepetey  Yeah, the pie is not the issue with your sister and you. It's pretty obvious.

It stinks that when you're doing the bulk of the cooking and you ask others to help they choose not to in a passive-aggressive way....but you already know that.

Make other pies; ask others to bring a pie; buy other pies. Just have pies there that everyone ELSE enjoys. Does she eat the pie she brings? If not, why?

Me? If she doesn't eat it, I'd simply ask if she wants it or not. If the answer is no then I'd dump it in the garbage and continue with the what needs to be done in the kitchen/clean up.

If she STILL insists on bringing that pie, well...the issues are running REAL deep.

[traveler]

Several years ago I was trying to lighten up thanksgiving and made a pumpkin chiffon pie. Fewer calories. My family wanted traditional pumpkin pie. So now I buy one from Fred Meyers and a can of whipped cream. I never eat it   it makes them happy.

[beckyb1012]

I agree with @cherry let her bring it every year and send her home with what is left.  Bake the traditional (which is my preference too) and she will notice the difference in amounts taken.  Maybe she does not care and wants the leftover pie for own enjoyment but without the guilt of baking one for herself.  I have been guilty of that myself when craving a special something or other.

Still Thanksgiving with family and still PIE on the table, love the whole month of November.

[Icegoddess]

Maybe SHE wants pumpkin chiffon.  Maybe she always brought what she knew you guys liked before and decided she would bring what she wanted to eat instead.  You suggested she bring something else and she said no, so she's obviously aware, or should be, that you aren't particularly fond of it.

I get it.  Every year at my house there's a decision whether to just cook what my daughter's family wants to eat or have a huge meal with leftovers out the wazoo.  We like turkey; they like ham.  I want dressing and sweet potatoes; they want mashed potatoes and mac & cheese.  I totally dread Thanksgiving because I don't even enjoy cooking.

[Laura14]

@petepetey  I think you answered your own question.  Sisters are more important than pies even difficult or bossy ones. 

And if her pie has an "accident" on the way to the table (fall, animal bite, misplacement, etc), we all know nothing...   

[Mom2Dogs]

@petepetey...let her bring what she wants and purchase or bake what you want... I like to steer clear of hard feelings and this is an easy one to 'fix'.

edited to add.....No, you can never have to much pie.

[beckyb1012]

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@Laura14 wrote:

@petepetey  I think you answered your own question.  Sisters are more important than pies even difficult or bossy ones. 

And if her pie has an "accident" on the way to the table (fall, animal bite, misplacement, etc), we all know nothing...   

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Accidents due in fact happen.