Community Chat

[itiswhatitis]

I saw a report that states that more and more "modern families" desire homes with two master bedroom suites to allow separate sleeping quarters for each spouse.  

Some psychologists believe this is a good thing for a marriage and of course, some don't.  Of course, it's not unheard of to sleep in a different bed in the same room.

Would you want a separate bedroom from your spouse?

[freakygirl]

I've always wanted my own bedroom, but not necessarily to sleep apart from my husband. I just wanted it for all my stuff and to have "my own space". he never fell for it. 😕

[deedledeedeedle]

I heard this, too. Wow, I thought that didn't happen until you hit the 50th year of marriage LOL.

No, I would never want a separate bedroom from my spouse. Bathroom and closet, yes, but not a bedroom.

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[tansy]

Could "modern families" be code for older people?  I do know several couples who sleep separately so both can get a good night's sleep.

Many floor plans in 55-plus communities have that feature and it makes it easy for unrelated people to share a home or to take in an elderly relative.

[KKlim]

Yes - and I know people that have it. lol.

[itiswhatitis]

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@tansy wrote:

Could "modern families" be code for older people?  I do know several couples who sleep separately so both can get a good night's sleep.

Many floor plans in 55-plus communities have that feature and it makes it easy for unrelated people to share a home or to take in an elderly relative.

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No codes.  I don't do codes.  This probably speaks to millennials or Gen Y.  Today's familes are nothing like traditional American families (that's another topic).  

[GCR18]

I know two couples that have separate bedrooms. 

[september]

I'm a rather good sleeper.  I have nights when my spouse keeps me awake, but not often.

My parents have had to sleep in separate rooms for many years.  One snores, the other one is a restless sleeper and tosses around a lot.

[itiswhatitis]

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@freakygirl wrote:

I've always wanted my own bedroom, but not necessarily to sleep apart from my husband. I just wanted it for all my stuff and to have "my own space". he never fell for it. 😕

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LOL!

[Annabellethecat66]

It's a matter of preference.  My my husband was alive most of the time we slept in the same bed.

However, when my girls moved out we had 4 extra bedrooms.  He said I snored like a sailor.  Every now and then I'd wake up and he'd be in another room.

I used to say he was like Goldilocks (you know, the 3 bears).

OK, so once the alarm went off in the house in the middle of the night.  I woke up and he wasn't there.  So, I went in the different bedrooms looking for him.  He was sound asleep in one of the girls' old bedroom.  I opened the bedroom door and stood over him and yelled...."Do you hear that?"  He jumped up, never said a word and got the shotgun out!  

The whole time I was walking behind him saying over and over, "I'm behind you....don't shoot me".  He walked all over the house (me holding on to his waist).  It was a low battery.

So, yes, I think married people should definitely sleep together.  When they get old(er) that's different.  Although there is a kind of intimacy you get when you sleep (really sleep) together.