Re: Rude Questions

iwrite · ‎01-11-2019

sadly, for many, it is in their dna to ask questions that are none of their business.

yes, people, especially in the workplace have asked the most questions that they had no business asking me (so glad i'm not in that environment anymore), like the following

how did you get a promotion - my answer "the usual way, by sleeping with the ceo. i saw your name on the list, but it was crossed out"

why i brought my lunch every day - my answer "because i think the food in the cafeteria has poison in it" or "i'm not fond of being broke"

if someone asked me what they asked you, i would have said, "just enough to bury one person and you look casket sharp"

i have always given a completely unexpected and over the top answer. fyi, the answers that i wrote above are the clean version of what i actually said.

even as a little kid, i often gave answers that were unexpected. one time my mother took me to one of her friends house for some type of gathering and the lady asked me if i wanted anything to eat. i said no and she made the mistake of asking me why. and i repeated what i had heard my mother say and said "because you can't cook". i think you know how that visit went from there <smile> and no, my mother was not mad at what i said.

people that know me, know better then to ask me something that is none of their business. yes, some have tried and regretted it.

denisemb · ‎12-07-2012

@bikerbabe wrote:
When are you and your husband going to have kids?
Or
Why don’t you and your husband have kids?

Luckily I have had a smart-aleck mouth my whole life (growing up with 2 older brothers who liked to bait me helped).

My 1st husband and I were childless by choice and I once had a guy at work ask me why we didn't have children.

I answered very quietly and seriously that we had to sign documents that we not reproduce. He looked puzzled and I went on...

"Hey, you've seen the size of our noses (both of us had fairly prominent noses). Can you imagine what our children would look like?! We'd have to save for nose jobs instead of college!!"

Denise

SeaMaiden · ‎03-10-2010

@Anonymous032819 wrote:
The other day, one of my co-workers asked me how much my dad left me in life insurance money.

RUDE!!!

I told him that I didn't want to say, which was true.

It's nobody's business how much was left to me.

Has anyone ever asked you a rude question?

@Anonymous032819 Yes. Before I had both knees replaced I was very bowleged. Strangers would ask me what was wrong with my legs.... I would walk away in tears. I was very self conscious about it and also suffered extreme pain from the arthritis.

People are so rude. Now I have straight legs no more pain

.....but I still am angry at those people and their hurtful comments. So IGNORANT😡

AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

In my mind, I might use one of the rude or witty comebacks many posters mentioned, but in reality, I'd give a brief response or simply say that I'd prefer not to talk about it.

Bridgegal · ‎03-09-2010

@QueenDanceALot

For sure. And thankfully.

sann · ‎05-30-2012

@Love my grandkids wrote:
@Anonymous032819 After my mom died a neighbor asked me if she left me a lot of money. I gave her the death glare and said "It's none of your business." She never spolke to me again which was a good thing!

Great answer.

magicmoodz · ‎03-16-2010

Ah, money is such a taboo subject isn't it? I think we can disclose information without putting a dollar amount on it. For instance "my parents were commited to leaving the bulk of their estate to those charities near and dear to them". Or "I am fortunate. My parents left me enough to pay off my mortgage, buy that lake place I always wanted and put a bit in savings".

But if you really are annoyed you could always say "I'm not really comfortable talking about it" or "that's a subject I'd rather not discuss".

We don't always have to strike back when we are offended.

novamc1 · ‎07-02-2015

I had an incredibly nosy experience with a teller at my local bank branch, where I had never seen her before and know the manager very well.

I was there to deposit a measly $13.00 check from our health insurance company. I had erroneously written the bank routing number on the back of the check, crossed it out, and entered our account number when I signed the check.

I didn't wait for her to ask about it, when I handed it over to her.

Told her I'd been busy and made a mistake and hoped my correction on the back of the check was OK.

From there, here's how it went........

She asked that "since the holidays were over, what was keeping me so busy".

I said I had just come from an hour workout on a treadmill at the gym across the street and was a bit off my game when I wrote the wrong number on the back of the check.

She then asked whether it should be deposited in our "savings account".

I said we don't have a savings account at that bank (we have other types of accounts), and please just deposit in the checking account shown on the back of the check.

She then asked why we don't have a savings account--in a tone of voice indicating she thought we must be stupid.

I said we have a CD account at that bank (which she should have clearly seen on her computer screen), have various accounts at several other banks and don't need a savings account at her bank.

SHE THEN ASKED WHETHER I WAS FEELING OK !!.

I said I was feeling quite fine, in a not very nice voice, because I was getting less fine by the split-second.

She then also asked what other banks we did business with.

WRONG QUESTION TO ASK........I had lost all patience by that point and said that if I had to answer all these questions just to deposit a finy check, please give the check back to me, and forget the whole thing.

And in a VERY annoyed voice, I told her that I was not about to tell her where else we banked. She seemed to finally get the message.............

From there, she did deposit the check and gave me a receipt. I couldn't get out of there fast enough!

Later had a conversation with her manager and let him know what happened. I'm sure he told her to get a little less nosy with future customers.

KKJ · ‎03-11-2010

@suzyQ3 wrote:
Yes, I met up with an old friend for lunch recently. As we were leaving the restaurant, she turned to me and out of the blue asked me whether I was ever diagnosed with anorexia ( I am very thin).

I was taken aback that anyone would blurt out something like that. I told her that that was a very weird question and that, even if I had been, totatally inappropriate. She immediately back-tracked and said that I looked good.

But It brought back memories of her from the past -- very passive-aggressive.

Wow, this was me about 3 yrs ago. I went through a health crisis and lost quite a bit of weight. When I returned to work a coworker would constantly comment "you're too thin", which was hurtful in light of what I'd been through. I've since gained it all back so no more of those comments.