I think I could write a book about all of the rude comments that my late mother-in-law made to me.
The two that really stand out in my mind were while I was dating her son I was telling her how my father died from a heart attack when he was only 53 years old. Without even saying I'm sorry to hear that or he died too young. Her comment was "Was he fat". I was dumbfounded.
I was so shocked that someone could be so crass that the only thing I could say was no he wasn't heavy at all. I couldn't even think of a retort.
The second rude comment was when she asked me why my first husband left me. She said was the woman he became involved with much prettier and younger than you were. I can't tell you how much I wanted to punch her. Instead I just said, no, he was just an idiot. On a side note, that same ex-husband just passed away last year leaving behind 6 divorces. He left his last wife when they were both almost 70 years old. The old fool never learned how to be faithful to any woman. He did me a big favor by leaving.
My first in-laws were the sweetest people and even years later they continued to keep in touch with me. It was such a shock to me to meet my second set of in-laws and find out what jerks they could be.
Even my father-in-law couldn't keep his rude comments in check. Both of my parents had passed by the time I met my second husband and I really didn't have any family left so I would occasionally try to inject a word in about my family. That wasn't easy because these people never cared about hearing anything about my life. It was all about them. I was dating their son for over a year before they even asked me where I grew up. After we became engaged I was talking about how my Dad had worked his whole life in a Steel Mill in PA. My FIL made the comment, how could anyone work in such a crummy dirty job and why didn't he find something better to do that would give his family a more affluent life. I'll tell you, I was livid. I told him my Dad worked hard and when he passed away he was a general foreman who made a very decent salary. We never wanted for anything. My soon to be husband told him to apologize for that rude and obnoxious comment but as usual his father just ignored him and left the room.
I put up with these people for 6 years before I just said I'm done. I told my husband I'll never stop you from seeing your family but I will never go to their house again and they aren't welcome in mine.
They've both been gone for years and our marriage survived , but when they passed away I wasn't the least bit sad or sorry.
To this day, my husband tells me how sorry he is for their behavior and how much he appreciated me sticking around. He tells me he knows many women would have left him soon after meeting his parents. I can't disagree with him.
My husband is such a good man. I can't imagine how these people produced such a kind and caring man when they were such unkind people.
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