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[NYC Susan]

On 11/10/2014 DARING GREATLY said:

This particular therapist would also laugh about things. She would say, "You've been through a lot, that's for sure," and laugh. It was so annoying. Her laughter to me was like she took things so lightly, without empathy or thinking of how I was feeling.

I did work hard on my therapy. When I outright ask the therapist, "Please, how do I work through my fears. I don't know what to do anymore?" And her pat answer is, "You'll deal with it." That is not her style, that is her lack of knowledge and experience and expertise to work with a client and to guide the client in any direction.

Whether you think it's her style or not her style, it's clear you're not happy with her. There's no need to harp on the things you don't like about her. Not every therapist/patient combination is a good one. That's a fact. So you should find someone that you'll be happier with.

Continuing to list all the negatives about this therapist is counter-productive. She's not the right one for you, although others may be happy with her. Your perceptions probably differ from others. It's clearly not a good fit, so it's time to move on, and that should be your focus now.

[Black Cat Back]

I came here to see if anyone had similiar experiences or if I was seeing things clearly. I appreciate all the advice and words of wisdom you have shared.

Chrystaltree:

What you wrote below is so true and has been my point as I approached this topic. A therapist is supposed to challenge you, give you direction and let you come to the conclusions you need to in moving beyond situations that are causing distress. You hit the nail on the head. What you described is exactly what I've been experiencing. Thank you for getting to the heart of the matter. I invested a lot of time and money in this therapist, so I wanted to know if what I was experiencing was status quo. I've learned here that it is not, and I need to find someone who is much more accomplished at their profession. By the way, the therapist is a clinical psychologist.

No therapist, in the real world, will just let you talk and complain and vent. That's what friends are for. Talk therapy with genuine therapist serves a purpose.

[mousiegirl]

I would stop seeing her. If you have to see someone, look for someone else, but you don't want to waste your time, emotions, and money on someone like this.

[dooBdoo]

On 11/11/2014 DARING GREATLY said:

I came here to see if anyone had similiar experiences or if I was seeing things clearly. I appreciate all the advice and words of wisdom you have shared.

Chrystaltree:

What you wrote below is so true and has been my point as I approached this topic. A therapist is supposed to challenge you, give you direction and let you come to the conclusions you need to in moving beyond situations that are causing distress. You hit the nail on the head. What you described is exactly what I've been experiencing. Thank you for getting to the heart of the matter. I invested a lot of time and money in this therapist, so I wanted to know if what I was experiencing was status quo. I've learned here that it is not, and I need to find someone who is much more accomplished at their profession. By the way, the therapist is a clinical psychologist.

No therapist, in the real world, will just let you talk and complain and vent. That's what friends are for. Talk therapy with genuine therapist serves a purpose.

DG, I admire the way you've responded here with respect for others and careful thought about each poster's offerings. You're a gracious person. I think you're going to do well once you find the best therapist for you and your needs. Take care.

[Black Cat Back]

On 11/11/2014 dooBdoo said:

On 11/11/2014 DARING GREATLY said:

I came here to see if anyone had similiar experiences or if I was seeing things clearly. I appreciate all the advice and words of wisdom you have shared.

Chrystaltree:

What you wrote below is so true and has been my point as I approached this topic. A therapist is supposed to challenge you, give you direction and let you come to the conclusions you need to in moving beyond situations that are causing distress. You hit the nail on the head. What you described is exactly what I've been experiencing. Thank you for getting to the heart of the matter. I invested a lot of time and money in this therapist, so I wanted to know if what I was experiencing was status quo. I've learned here that it is not, and I need to find someone who is much more accomplished at their profession. By the way, the therapist is a clinical psychologist.

<em>No therapist, in the real world, will just let you talk and complain and vent. That's what friends are for. Talk therapy with genuine therapist serves a purpose.</em>

DG, I admire the way you've responded here with respect for others and careful thought about each poster's offerings. You're a gracious person. I think you're going to do well once you find the best therapist for you and your needs. Take care.

dooBdoo...

Thank you for your kind words and thoughtful support. I truly appreciate it.

[Vamp]

Sorry you have had bad luck with the two therapists. I would definitely find a new one. I have been to several over the years for various things, and some are great, some are absolutely terrible. I wouldn't waste my time and money on one that didn't impress me. I know it's a hassle to "shop around", but sometimes you don't have a choice. Good luck, I hope you find someone worthwhile.

[OnlyShopsOnline]

Boy do I have a story! I started to see someone several years ago, who had come highly recommended. I had some fears that had been with me since childhood and wanted to overcome them. He was absolutely great. However, on my first visit, he told me that he was going to be changing his practice in several weeks, and would no longer be taking my insurance.

Paying fully out of pocket was extremely expensive, so I opted to see someone he had chosen to take over his clients, who was still accepting insurance. I saw the woman twice. On the first visit, I wasn't too impressed. On the second visit, as I was trying to describe what was giving me a problem, I must have struck a nerve with her. She literally had an anxiety attack right there in front of me and actually told me to stop talking.

Needless to say, I didn't go back. And, I think she is still in practice!