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[catwhisperer]

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@Kachina624wrote:

Yes, it is true.  My ex-husband was an alcoholic who was totally disinterested in sweets but when he went "on the wagon" he got a terrible craving for ice cream.  I always figured it had to do with needing/craving carbohydrates

@Kachina624...I'm going through the same thing with my DH and the ice cream craving. 

[lkat]

@Mom2Dogs admitting that she needed to get help and getting it is a great start.

Until you've loved someone who's an addict or alcoholic you really don't know how difficult it is.  It's so frustrating and so hard to walk that fine line between loving and supporting them and not enabling them.  I know how hard it was with a husband, I'm sure it's way more difficult with a child, no matter what their age.  If possible, I would recommend checking out Al-Anon.  It helps to know that there are so many people going through the same thing as you are.  It is sometimes hard to talk with people you know because of the judgement they pass even if they don't mean to.

I will be keeping you all in my thoughts.  I know how hard it was to go through when I was young and I know it must be even harder as you get older.  All you can do is continue to love her and support her the best way you know how.

[OKPrincess]

Remember the three “C”s:

You didn’t Cause it

You can’t Control it

You can’t Cure it

@Mom2Dogs Learned in Al-Anon

[Sookie Says]

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@lkatwrote:

@Mom2Dogs admitting that she needed to get help and getting it is a great start.

Until you've loved someone who's an addict or alcoholic you really don't know how difficult it is.  It's so frustrating and so hard to walk that fine line between loving and supporting them and not enabling them.  I know how hard it was with a husband, I'm sure it's way more difficult with a child, no matter what their age.  If possible, I would recommend checking out Al-Anon.  It helps to know that there are so many people going through the same thing as you are.  It is sometimes hard to talk with people you know because of the judgement they pass even if they don't mean to.

I will be keeping you all in my thoughts.  I know how hard it was to go through when I was young and I know it must be even harder as you get older.  All you can do is continue to love her and support her the best way you know how.

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Dear@Ikat, I couldn't agree with you more, very well stated & so true!

[Noel7]

@Mom2Dogs

Google:  Sugar addiction in sobriety.

There are explanations and information available.

[Sookie Says]

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@lkatwrote:

My husband has been sober for 29 years and he definitely seemed to develop a sweet tooth after he quit drinking and he still has one.  I don't remember that he ate many sweets before he stopped drinking, though he didn't really eat much of anything back then.  I seem to remember that it's not uncommon for former drinkers to crave more sweets and caffeine.  

It is wonderful that she's gone through rehab.  I know how difficult that is after living through it with my husband but I also know that it's possible to remain sober, especially if she has loved ones like you by her side.    I wish all of you the best of luck.

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@lkat I forgot to say, congrats to your husband for 29 yrs of sobriety! And, to you Ikat, you stayed & helped him, others may have asked for a divorce & fled, in other words, you took the high road! Your husband is very blessed to have you as his wife! GOD bless you both.

[CinNC]

There is a history of alcoholism in my family. I don't drink because I don't like the taste, and don't like the feeling.  But..........I have had wicked issues with caffeine and sweets which I am now trying to curb. I remember years ago reading an article about obesity in women where there was a family history of alcoholism.....the sons had a higher percentage of becoming alcoholics and the daughters obese.  Guessing many things have changed - research-wise - since that article and not sure how accurate that info is considered at this time. 

[lkat]

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@lkat I forgot to say, congrats to your husband for 29 yrs of sobriety! And, to you Ikat, you stayed & helped him, others may have asked for a divorce & fled, in other words, you took the high road! Your husband is very blessed to have you as his wife! GOD bless you both.

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Oh, thank you @Sookie Says.  It was not always easy but was so worth it.  I have to give him a lot of the credit.  A few weeks after he came home from rehab we had police come to our door to tell us that his older brother (who had driven him to rehab) was dead after a motorcycle accident.  Having to tell his brother's wife and children was about the hardest test he could've gone through and he made it.  Two years later we decided to try to have a child and he's been an awesome husband and father.  

My heart goes out to anyone struggling with alcohol or drug abuse with someone they love.  It is so hard and so isolating and sometimes you just feel so helpless.  I am a very private person and never shared what I was going through with anyone which is why I recommend Al-Anon.  Even if you don't contribute much, just realizing that so many other people understand what you're feeling is immensely helpful.

[Desertdi]

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@Kachina624wrote:

Yes, it is true.  My ex-husband was an alcoholic who was totally disinterested in sweets but when he went "on the wagon" he got a terrible craving for ice cream.  I always figured it had to do with needing/craving carbohydrates.

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@Kachina624     I had two of them.........both died before they got to the "ice cream stage".     Way too young, I might add. 

[Sookie Says]

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@lkatwrote:

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@lkat I forgot to say, congrats to your husband for 29 yrs of sobriety! And, to you Ikat, you stayed & helped him, others may have asked for a divorce & fled, in other words, you took the high road! Your husband is very blessed to have you as his wife! GOD bless you both.

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Oh, thank you @Sookie Says.  It was not always easy but was so worth it.  I have to give him a lot of the credit.  A few weeks after he came home from rehab we had police come to our door to tell us that his older brother (who had driven him to rehab) was dead after a motorcycle accident.  Having to tell his brother's wife and children was about the hardest test he could've gone through and he made it.  Two years later we decided to try to have a child and he's been an awesome husband and father.  

My heart goes out to anyone struggling with alcohol or drug abuse with someone they love.  It is so hard and so isolating and sometimes you just feel so helpless.  I am a very private person and never shared what I was going through with anyone which is why I recommend Al-Anon.  Even if you don't contribute much, just realizing that so many other people understand what you're feeling is immensely helpful.

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@lkat Your post breaks my heart. I am very sorry that your DH had to go through such a test, I am immensely sorry for the loss of your DH's brother, I can't imagine what that was like for him. However, I have lost people I was very close to & know that it's never easy. Happy to know your DH is an awesome father, & I'm sure you are an awesome mother!