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[chickenbutt]

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@dooBdoo wrote:

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@chickenbutt wrote:

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(bolded by me)  Really?  That is kind of bizarre to me.  Why would it be annoying to answer somebody's question and state that you 'hope that helps' at the end?   I'm gobsmacked at that one.

Granted, numerous of the ones mentioned here don't bother me at all.  Well 99% of them I suppose because I mostly pay attention to what somebody is conveying, and I do a couple of these things. 

Ok, unless there is poor grammar and I will often get stuck there.   (e.g. any sentence that starts with 'Me and...' will make my head explode and I won't hear the rest of the sentence)

But this one is - I'm just not getting it.    That I try to help somebody and then express that I hope it helps seems nice to me.   It's always been a decent thing to say, so I really am curious as to why some find it offensive.  I'm not being snarky or smarmy.  I honestly am curious as to why that would be offensive.   I like to learn so, if there is something to learn here, maybe I need to learn it.

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            Hi, chickie!   It surprised me, too.   The explanation was that it sounded condescending or sarcastic.    Since I don't use sarcasm and do my best not to be condescending, it never occurred to me to "hear" it that way.   I still use it, and hope people know it's with good intent and that I genuinely hope I'm helping.

            I agree about learning.   It helps to know what bugs someone else and to find out why.   Better communication is the result, I feel.

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Well, that's interesting and I have to add that it seems odd.  I've never EVER, in all my years online, seen somebody use 'HTH' in any kind of negative, condescending, or sarcastic way.  NEVER.

So, I guess we're back to 'perception' and maybe some folks, especially here where there are always a lot of people new to the internet, just don't understand.   

Thanks, dooB!  You are always the voice of reason and facts, and it is sincerely appreciated.   You can say HTH to me any time. 

[Daisy Sunflower]

I can understand thinking that "Hope that helps" sounds like, "Now that I explained it to you, do you understand now, idiot?"

[Trinity11]

In regard to HTH... there is always someone on the internet just waiting to be offended. LOL Wait for it, I could set my watch by it.

[dooBdoo]

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@chickenbutt wrote:

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Well, that's interesting and I have to add that it seems odd.  I've never EVER, in all my years online, seen somebody use 'HTH' in any kind of negative, condescending, or sarcastic way.  NEVER.

So, I guess we're back to 'perception' and maybe some folks, especially here where there are always a lot of people new to the internet, just don't understand.   

Thanks, dooB!  You are always the voice of reason and facts, and it is sincerely appreciated.   You can say HTH to me any time. 

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            You're welcome, chickie, and thank you for the kind words.   I agree, it's all about perception.   You can say "hth" to me, any time, too!

[Angels&Ladybugs]

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@Daysdee wrote:

@barefootwillowI agree.  I thanked someone coming to Christmas celebration and she said "no problem."  I get that in stores too.  "You are welcome" is a much better response.

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I agree. It implies a problem where there isn't one. I can see it being used in response to a thank you for something like a kind person stopping to change a tire, but not in response to thanking a waiter for bringing a drink you ordered.

[ginirn]

"No problem"  used by wait staff in restaurants.  When they say It I replay "Well if taking my order was a problem I would suggest another job."

[ginirn]

Calling every boring thing "amazing".  No it's not!!!!!!!

[Cakers3]

"No problem" or "You betcha" can be regional.

I spent quite a long time in the mountains in Colorado years ago and "You bet" was a standard response to "Thank you".  It's just a way for the receipient of service to know that the person was happy to help you  or whatever.

I found it quite nice-a regional phrase that certainly didn't have me denigrating the speaker.  I viewed it as "mountain talk".

Some people really need to take the plug out once in a while.

hth and just sayin'.

[chickenbutt]

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@Daisy Sunflower wrote:

I can understand thinking that "Hope that helps" sounds like, "Now that I explained it to you, do you understand now, idiot?"

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Ok, but it doesn't mean that and I've never seen it used in a way that would imply that.    I guess taking something innocent and turning it into something snarky is just one of those internet things.    

Thanks for your input! 

[goldensrbest]

It is not phrases that make me scream,but actions ,and words.