Community Chat

[luvmybeetle]

My opinion is that you need to get some guts and tell whomever to keep their hands off.  

As for grandchildren, if my grandson had ever touched anything he wasn't supposed to touch I would be there to let him know very sternly.  I'm not afraid to let people know how I feel.

But again, I still feel people are not raising their children properly with no discipline.

[qbetzforreal]

We don't have this problem because the people who visit our home have manners.

This is not a case of chutzpah or entitlement, it's case of bad manners.

It you wish for people not touch your belongings then you need to express that verbally.  Especially to the trash taker outers.  They should just come in get the trash and exit.  No lingering.

[spumoni99]

Seems like you need to associate with a better degree of moral caliber.

[chrystaltree]

Of course such bizarre behavior is not the norm in society.  I don't even understand it.  Sure occasionally one person might exhibit rude behavior like this but certainly not every person enters be someone's home.  This isn't an example of entitlement.  Entitlement is something different.   Since this happens to you so often, you need to take control of what happens in your own home.  When a guest arrives, seat them in the living room and make them stay there.  If you are serving snacks bring them into the living room.  Put your valuables and collectables away.  It's ok to say "please don't touch that, it's delicate".  Simply letting these things happen in your home only encourages.  It's obvious that the people no class and no respect for your home so you need to take control.

[Tinkrbl44]

@JoyFilled Warrior 

I can't imagine tolerating that kind of behavior.

You need new friends.

[Group 5 minus 1]

Was it good attitude or bad attitude? Needs an adjective.

[jlkz]

@JoyFilled Warrior 

Please reread @shoesnbags post.

Your timidity at calling attention to bad behavior, giving it its real name ( stealing ), and finally directing the offending party / parties to leave immediately actually makes you part of the problem.  In its own way, you are enabling them to continue.

Paper signs do not work:  Your voice cannot be ignored and should contain your true emotion...outrage, anger, etc.

Final direction: return items taken and / or never come back.  Replace these disrespectful characters with recommended ones.  You get what you demand / require.

[LTT1]

@JoyFilled Warrior @jlkz @Group 5 minus 1 @chrystaltree @chrystaltree 

My suggestion:

say

"I believe we need to have a talk about how my things are treated when you visit".

Then, when you have their attention: "My rules are that you are to ask me before touching my possessions. Then, I will show the items to you. 
Please (the first time) wait to touch my possessions until after I have given approval".

Why not make this clear through communication?

[Mj12]

If I got to the point where I felt had to put up a TOUCH NOTHING sign I'd probably first consider exactly who I am welcoming into my home.

[Lucky Dog]

No way am I going to hang a sign in my house.