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[Plaid Pants2]

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@Pearlee wrote:

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@Pook wrote:

How rude it is to not recognize that the person saying no problem IS being polite and you are insulting them!!  Even if you don't like it, the intent is not to be rude to anyone.  It is your problem if you cannot recognize that.  I usually reply with no problem when someone is thanking me for doing something I did to help them out.  If someone would reply so rudely to me like OP does - well I would definitely state that now it's a problem and I'm sorry for going out of my way to help you!!!!  I would sooner have someone say it's not problem to help me out than to half heartedly help and say your welcome grudgingly which is just a preprogrammed response anyway!!!

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@Pook  I completely disagree with your interpretion.  Fortunately, nobody yet I've said that too has taken it the way you have.

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How do you know that for 100% certainty?

Maybe they were too polite to anything back to you.

[Krimpette]

I'm another who find no problem with no problem.  Other things annoy me way more than that.

[Havarti]

It is a whole new world – things have changed so much and so fast. Manners are a pleasant surprise nowadays rather than the norm. So many times things are “me” oriented these days, there seems to be less of a sense of community and mutual support in favor of self-supporting efforts. Another thing that amazes me is loss of privacy. People post their every move, thought and photos on public platforms, they add so many listening devices to their home & life and think nothing of it. I heard a small group of people in their 30s & 40s talking on the radio and they all said they have no expectation of privacy in their lives. WHAT????? That was old school Russia’s approach to life – have we really come to this in the US? I don’t have any great secrets to hide, but I do value my privacy as well as the privacy of others.

Last week I saw an article that stated Facebook is working on technology that reads your mind, and the article went on to say the US government is also developing this type of technology as well as another company. OMG…even our thoughts will not be our own in the near future. It is like a bad science fiction movie come to life. Lately, I feel so out of place in this new world – it must be like what happens when people get out of prison after spending decades locked up, only to find themselves in a whole new world that has moved on without them. I haven’t been locked up, but I am still shocked at what changes are rapidly happening and how easily people just accept the bad with the good. I am glad I lived the majority of my life when I did.

[TaylorBrown]

I use both terms and it doesn't bother me when one is used versus the other.

[Noel7]

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@hopi wrote:

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@Plaid Pants2 wrote:

It doesn't bother me.

There are more important things for me to get upset over.

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ITA, it seem like a generous way of saying that it was no effort for me to help you.

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That's exactly what it means, @hopi

[YorkieonmyPillow]

@Pearlee   Aren't you glad you posted this fine April morning? 

[Pook]

@Pearlee  I guess it's because they are still trying to be polite to you but they probably are thinking how rude you are!!  My helpfulness and politeness would end with the rude remark!!  There is no need to be polite to anyone who is so rude as to criticize me for being helpful to them! 

And I am not trying to pick a fight - just trying to get you to see no slight intended as no problem is being polite and commonly accepted by most!!  You are obviously old school and seem unwilling to accept that someone helped you but did not respond with what you wanted after you thanked them.  It probably  is just would be better to not thank anyone since it's so aggravating to you if they don't give the right response!!

[on the bay]

So many people say it now, and I know what they intend with it-they say "no problem" and in my mind I'm thinking well I hope it was never a problem) but now I appreciate they are meaning my "you're welcome" so it doesn't bother me now.

I never liked when people called me "m'am" as soon as I got over 30 esp in the south; it made me feel so old, but now I know they use it because that is their title of respect. Now that I actually AM a m'am, it doesn't bother me that much.

The only time it isn't used for respect is when you are trying to talk to a customer rep., esp a cable co. and they keep interrupting you with "M'am! m'am!" trying to cut you off and keep control over any conversation!Then I say, please stop calling me m'am, my name is ... and that makes them remember they are talking to a person just like them!

And for anyone who complains about don't you have more to "worry" about than talk aobut whatever people are talking about- it's because people like to observe and talk about many things and listen to each others varying opinions! It makes life interesting.

It is so great to talk about all kinds of things- both serious, sad, funny, inconsequential every thing under the sun. Thats what humans do.

There will be so many new words and language that many of us don't like and others it never bothers. It doesn't mean people who don't like it don't want anything to change, just maybe don't like the changes. And that just shows again, all the differences make the world go round