Community Chat

[NativeJax]

I was friendly two my next door neighbor, chatted over the balcony and drank coffee in the mornings.....I came home 6 months ago from work and she had overdosed on pills and alcohol leaving her two year old unattended for two days. I did notice she seemed to have alcohol issues but her child was always clean and fed so I said nothing....now she is dead and the child has no mother but I did nothing and I did have some concerns. Lesson learned. I am glad some of you are not my neighbors with your false harmony....my neighbors are sometimes noisy but they are friendly and they notice if I have been working late or something changed in my routine. It doesn't bother me a bit that they take the time to ask. I guess we are all different.
My neighbor two weeks ago painted my door and concrete because he had left over paint so that it would look nice. I bet some of you would be bashing that neighbor. He also planted flowers under my window for everyone to enjoy, it didn't bother me at all.

[proudlyfromNJ]

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@RoughDraft wrote:

It's deja vu all over again!  Anyone remember Sparky?

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Yes!

[MyGirlsMom]

@NativeJax

I'm very sorry about your late neighbor, that's very sad.  

We live in a rural community, in our development, we have at least one acre lots..close enough but nit too close.  I know each and every neighbor, what they drive, their children's name and ages etc.  We help one another as well as look out for one another.

The OP posted, "what ifs", speculation and questioning the neighborhood kids.  The OP didn't post about any alleged illegal activities , so what's wrong?  

[NativeJax]

I think what's wrong is how people are telling Fortune to "mind her own business" and almost vilifying her for wondering about school aged children not being in school. Calling her nosey and i just think there are people who make it their mission to be rude on these threads.

[hyacinth003]

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@fortune wrote:

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@VCamp2748 wrote:

I think you shouldn't worry about it.

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I've been ill and stuck on the couch.  The children scream, jump on the stairs, and run around all day.  There's no carpeting in their townhome and it's driving me crazy.  Which is one of the reasons I'm trying to solve this problem.

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I see people here think it's all funny and are making fun.

It isn't necessarily funny at all.  If you live in a townhome, there is an association and rules.  The rules will state how a home can be rented to others.  These neighbors may or may not be compliant with the association rules and who they have living in their townhome.

I don't find it funny at all, having been through a situation in my life like it once.  It's a long story, but some similarities to this.  The neighbor with the small kids finally had to leave due to all the neighbor complaints. 

Contact somone in your townhome association if they are annoying.  They can look into whether it's a legal rental under the rules.  Good luck.

Hyacinth

[MyGirlsMom]

@hyacinth003

No where in the OP does it mention that the neighbors are annoying. 

[hyacinth003]

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@MyGirlsMom wrote:

@hyacinth003

No where in the OP does it mention that the neighbors are annoying. 

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She did in the post I replied to.  She said screaming, running around, etc.

Hyacinth

[MyGirlsMom]

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@hyacinth003 wrote:

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@MyGirlsMom wrote:

@hyacinth003

No where in the OP does it mention that the neighbors are annoying. 

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She did in the post I replied to.

Hyacinth

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In the beginning...

..we had a neighbor stating that she thought the new neighbors (family of five) did not work and the children did not attend school.  But she asked the neighborhood children if the new neighbors went to school - and they told her they were home schooled.  So, either the children she questioned speak Korean, someone in the house speaks English.  How does she know if the parents don't work.  Is he at her window 24/7 or have a camera aimed at there house?  She also posted about an annoying group of seve who had left and there not being any furniture in the house.   Nothing about the new family.  

[Nancy Drew]

This is a case of darn if you do darn if you don't. If for some reason you report it you are the nosey neighbor. If something shady is going on and the children are getting no education it will be why didn't you speak up.

[DottieBlue]

Another possibility is perhaps the neighbor belongs to a church who sponsors newly arrived immigrant families, and she offers her home as a safe place to stay until the new family gets a more permanent living arrangement.  Perhaps they are staying with her while they get used to the new country they are in, and need time to learn English and our customs before they are ready to get a job or start public school.  If they can't speak English, it would be very difficult for the father to get a job and difficult for the children to assimilate in a public school. 

If I were in the OP's position, I would let the neighbor know about the noises and ask them to be more quiet as they may not even be aware that she can hear them.  I would also check into whether the neighbor is violating any occupancy rules, and then let whoever is in charge of that handle it.

But other than that, I'd mind my own business unless or until I had probable cause to suspect that any criminal activity is going on.  I wouldn't want to cause unnecessary trouble for anyone who could be perfectly innocent of any wrongdoing.

Just my take on it.