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[oppia]

What would you think, if a friend tried to solve a dispute and bring two so called friends back together. Knowing that this person was not nice?

TIA

[bikerbabe]

Not enough information and it depends on how you define not nice. In general 2 people need to work out their problems directly with each other. A third-party doesn't work unless it's a therapist.

[cotton4me]

I’m assuming you mean one of the two she’s trying to get together isn’t nice? Nice is often in the eye of the beholder. If she hasn’t personally been hurt by this person she might not get it. Without knowing the situation it’s difficult to guess the motive or purpose in trying to get them together.

[RedTop]

If the situation involved me, I would tell my well meaning friend to stay out of it. I am perfectly capable of maintaining my friendships, and would not appreciate a middleman in this type of situation.

[Yahooey]

I agree with others that state nice is subjective. There isn't enough info to go on. If you are the person your friend is trying to patch with the other 'not nice' person', tell her to stay out of it.

[focksie]

Regardless of whether the other person is nice or not, I'm an adult and would not appreciate the meddling whether well-intentioned or not.

[Say Nay]

On 10/5/2014 RedTop said: If the situation involved me, I would tell my well meaning friend to stay out of it. I am perfectly capable of maintaining my friendships, and would not appreciate a middleman in this type of situation.

I agree. The well-meaning friend may end up with no friends.

[Colonel Meow]

I don't quite understand the circumstances, since there was not enough information provided. However, I have to agree with the other posters who opined that we, as adults, are perfectly capable of maintaining our own friendships. I would resent any friend who tried to control the course of my relationships with others.

[oppia]

Thanks ladies some good points made and I appreciate your effort.

Here is a little back ground - three good friends ( myself and two others.)

Friend #1 is not a nice person talks about others behind their backs and is

a user for her own means and motives.

Friend #2 is good friend to me but still has a relationship with #1.

Last night we were at a party and friend #2 decided we should make-up.

#1 said she has to apologize, I responded with "what for you calling me a bioch"

Among other things detrimental

to my well being. Does this help? I feel betrayed by the # 2 friend on some level.

[nun ya]

Sounds like friend #2 is uncomfortable with you and #1 not being friendly, and she is trying to fix it.

But it's not up to her to say who you should forgive. She needs to stay out of it.