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[NYC Susan]

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@QueenDanceALot wrote:

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@151949 wrote:

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@proudlyfromNJ wrote:

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@151949 wrote:

When I was a kid and one of my brothers would pick on me or hit me - my Mom absolutely did not tolerate the running to her about it. Her answer was always - Why are you running to me - stand up for yourself. Hit him back if they hit you and they'll learn not to hit you. For this reason I always wonder why women don't stand up to these guys and hit those %$$#@R@ back. Pick up a broom handle or a rolling pin and DEFEND YOURSELF. If they are in pain the next morning they will think twice before they do it again. It worked with my brothers.

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Hit back? A broom or rolling pin? Unless the abuser is the size of Danny Devito this would never work. Most men can overpower a woman very easy. Have you never watched the ID channel? 

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Trust me - my brothers are all huge men - 6'4" to 6'7" and big - not skinny. But I never let them intimidate me! Men overpower women because the women LET THEM. You just gotta be  mighty mouse. I can't hit as well as them but boy oh boy could I kick! Your gonna get hurt anyway it goes - don't just lie there and take it.

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You are equating brothers "picking on you" to men who brutalize women?

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It's not even close to the same thing.  Not physically, not emotionally, just not the same at all.

[truffle]

Here is why I would not have gotten involved.

Often, our jobs are our refuge and allow us to get away from our home life if only for 8 hours per day and to focus on something entirely different.  That helps us get past whatever it is we're going through.  If the place of employment is no longer a place to "lose ourselves" in our work then the employee might lose the ability to function there, may even break down and become unstable....and possibly lose her job.

Leave her alone.  Allow her to heal.  Listen if she wants to talk. 

[151949]

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@proudlyfromNJ wrote:

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@151949 wrote:

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@proudlyfromNJ wrote:

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@151949 wrote:

When I was a kid and one of my brothers would pick on me or hit me - my Mom absolutely did not tolerate the running to her about it. Her answer was always - Why are you running to me - stand up for yourself. Hit him back if they hit you and they'll learn not to hit you. For this reason I always wonder why women don't stand up to these guys and hit those %$$#@R@ back. Pick up a broom handle or a rolling pin and DEFEND YOURSELF. If they are in pain the next morning they will think twice before they do it again. It worked with my brothers.

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Hit back? A broom or rolling pin? Unless the abuser is the size of Danny Devito this would never work. Most men can overpower a woman very easy. Have you never watched the ID channel? 

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Trust me - my brothers are all huge men - 6'4" to 6'7" and big - not skinny. But I never let them intimidate me! Men overpower women because the women LET THEM. You just gotta be  mighty mouse. I can't hit as well as them but boy oh boy could I kick! Your gonna get hurt anyway it goes - don't just lie there and take it.

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@151949. Well, I do agree a woman can kick and fight back and not just lie there.... But in the end the man will overpower her. Did you ever beat up these brothers of yours while they were trying to beat you up?

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Yes and that was how they learned to stop beating me up - when I got the gumpton to hit them back.And I learned to not be anyones doormat and just take whatever is being handed out. My Mom was right to make me learn to stand up for myself.

[151949]

I find it impossible to believe that anyone with siblings close to their own age never had  them hit you. It is what kids do until they learn better.All kids.And being the only girl in a house full of boys ....speaks for itself.

[Noel7]

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@151949 wrote:

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@proudlyfromNJ wrote:

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@151949 wrote:

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@proudlyfromNJ wrote:

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@151949 wrote:

When I was a kid and one of my brothers would pick on me or hit me - my Mom absolutely did not tolerate the running to her about it. Her answer was always - Why are you running to me - stand up for yourself. Hit him back if they hit you and they'll learn not to hit you. For this reason I always wonder why women don't stand up to these guys and hit those %$$#@R@ back. Pick up a broom handle or a rolling pin and DEFEND YOURSELF. If they are in pain the next morning they will think twice before they do it again. It worked with my brothers.

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Hit back? A broom or rolling pin? Unless the abuser is the size of Danny Devito this would never work. Most men can overpower a woman very easy. Have you never watched the ID channel? 

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Trust me - my brothers are all huge men - 6'4" to 6'7" and big - not skinny. But I never let them intimidate me! Men overpower women because the women LET THEM. You just gotta be  mighty mouse. I can't hit as well as them but boy oh boy could I kick! Your gonna get hurt anyway it goes - don't just lie there and take it.

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@151949. Well, I do agree a woman can kick and fight back and not just lie there.... But in the end the man will overpower her. Did you ever beat up these brothers of yours while they were trying to beat you up?

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Yes and that was how they learned to stop beating me up - when I got the gumpton to hit them back.And I learned to not be anyones doormat and just take whatever is being handed out. My Mom was right to make me learn to stand up for myself.

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I can't agree with you @151949

No Mom is right in sanctioning a son or sons beating up on a girl.

That's one way to create an abuser.

[Bri36]

No, not all siblings hit each other.   

SMH

[151949]

@Noel7  Where did I say she "sanctioned" it. She handled it very well IMO.

[Bri36]

My husband has four brothers.  Out of six siblings, the youngest is a girl

They have never hit her.   It wouldn't have been tolerated even one time 

[HisElk1]

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@Noel7 wrote:

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@151949 wrote:

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@proudlyfromNJ wrote:

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@151949 wrote:

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@proudlyfromNJ wrote:

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@151949 wrote:

When I was a kid and one of my brothers would pick on me or hit me - my Mom absolutely did not tolerate the running to her about it. Her answer was always - Why are you running to me - stand up for yourself. Hit him back if they hit you and they'll learn not to hit you. For this reason I always wonder why women don't stand up to these guys and hit those %$$#@R@ back. Pick up a broom handle or a rolling pin and DEFEND YOURSELF. If they are in pain the next morning they will think twice before they do it again. It worked with my brothers.

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Hit back? A broom or rolling pin? Unless the abuser is the size of Danny Devito this would never work. Most men can overpower a woman very easy. Have you never watched the ID channel? 

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Trust me - my brothers are all huge men - 6'4" to 6'7" and big - not skinny. But I never let them intimidate me! Men overpower women because the women LET THEM. You just gotta be  mighty mouse. I can't hit as well as them but boy oh boy could I kick! Your gonna get hurt anyway it goes - don't just lie there and take it.

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@151949. Well, I do agree a woman can kick and fight back and not just lie there.... But in the end the man will overpower her. Did you ever beat up these brothers of yours while they were trying to beat you up?

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Yes and that was how they learned to stop beating me up - when I got the gumpton to hit them back.And I learned to not be anyones doormat and just take whatever is being handed out. My Mom was right to make me learn to stand up for myself.

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I can't agree with you @151949

No Mom is right in sanctioning a son or sons beating up on a girl.

That's one way to create an abuser.

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@Noel7 IMO, best post of this whole thread.  100% agree.

[truffle]

@151949 You're a survivor and you did what you had to do and it worked for you in your particular situation.  I like your fierceness and I'm sure it made you a great woman and a great nurse invaluable to your patients.