Monetary Wedding Gifts

Allegheny · ‎03-19-2010

There are three upcoming weddings, August, September and October. The first two are daughters of husband's first cousin, we will not be able to attend.

We always give monetary gifts. I think I know the answer to this, but wanted to get opinions.

If one is not attending the wedding/reception should the monetary gift be the same amount? When attending our usual gift is $150 or more depending upon the relationship to the couple. I was thinking perhaps $100 instead.

violann · ‎03-10-2010

I have never thought that the amount was based on anything but your feelings for the happy couple. That's what I go by. If you're thinking of the "pay for your plate" rule, that's NOT a "rule".

lolakimono · ‎03-29-2012

I base the wedding gift amount on how well I know the couple and if I have other wedding events to attend. If I give a gift for an engagement party, a bridal shower, and attend a bachelorette party, for example, I would give less for the wedding gift as I have already "gifted" for multiple events.

Allegheny · ‎03-19-2010

Thanks for your reply violann. Thats pretty much what I thought too.

Allegheny · ‎03-19-2010

On 7/1/2014 lolakimono said:
I base the wedding gift amount on how well I know the couple and if I have other wedding events to attend. If I give a gift for an engagement party, a bridal shower, and attend a bachelorette party, for example, I would give less for the wedding gift as I have already "gifted" for multiple events.

Thank you for your input. I am gifting for bridal showers as well. We usually only have one wedding a year, but with my husband's large close family there are numerous events annually.

We never had three wedding in a row. The October one is special to me, it my only brother's only child. My family consists of my brother and nephew, so in twenty years of marriage we have had only three celebrations on my side of the family.

Sawn · ‎03-17-2010

My personal opinion is that you should give according to your own budget and circumstances. Weddings are hopefully a time of great joy and love and not just about raking in the dough. We are as generous as possible because we believe in blessing others, just not to the point where we sweat paying the bills

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

I'm thinking that the $100 is an excellent amount. The couple will be very pleased with your gift, knowing that you weren't able to attend. They will be very honored.

'More or less', 'Right or wrong', 'In general', and 'Just thinking out loud ' (as usual).

Allegheny · ‎03-19-2010

Thank you for all the kind replies. As two weddings are on my husband's side of the family, I will leave that amount up to him. However, I will suggest $100 and hope he is agreeable to this. I plan on gifting my nephew $500, I have been putting money aside ever since he got engaged two years ago. He is very special to me.