@Sooner wrote:
UNLESS someone specifically asks for donations instead of gifts, it says nothing but:
A. You don't deserve a gift.
B. I don't want to buy you something for you to enjoy.
C. You have too much.
E. I'm not spending my money on you
And so on and so forth. I understand the idea that people have too much stuff, are hard to buy for, etc. but to me buying someone a tax deduction for you instead of something for them is simpy rude unless it is asked for.
So, would any of you care to weigh in on this and tell me I'm delusional?
you make some valid points. i don't agree with A. you don't deserve a gift. I feel like it says, you are hard to buy for, and this is easier for me.
or... I don't think that you need anything. you have too much already. this is what you deserve.
E. doesn't make sense, since at least in theory, you ARE spending your money on them.
i don't consider it rude at all. however, me personally, i would not really care for this type of gift.
i would much rather have a thoughtful gift. the price or value, make zero difference to me.
my late dh used to always buy me one of the GREAT BIG greeting cards, and then paste in our pet photos, and us doing stuff and make cute captions for valentines day and birthday. BEtter than any diamond ring or expensive gift. IMO it's the gift of thought, and love.
those types of gifts only work with a spouse or close family member.
it is really hard to get a gift for someone who has everything though.