Major life decissions

goldensrbest · ‎03-10-2010

I have a very major decission to make, it will be life changing for me, won't go into what ,but do you listen to your heart,or what your head tells you.

When you lose some one you L~O~V~E, that Memory of them, becomes a TREASURE.

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

@goldensrbest What are the consequences of either one?

I cannot answer this for you other than to advise you that the answer is already in you-you just need to realize which will be the best for you (consequences are either positive or negative).

All the best to you.

"" Compassion is a verb."-Thich Nhat Hanh

WenGirl42 · ‎07-05-2012

I give greater weight to my head...it's the one who's going to have to figure out the logistics of making whatever I've decided work! I'd always rather decide based on intellect than emotion. I wish you peace in making your decision and in living it out afterwards.

kitcat51 · ‎09-15-2016

Major decisions should be made with truth, reason & facts not emotions. All the best to you.

YorkieonmyPillow · ‎01-13-2013

@goldensrbest Your head.

Your heart can be swayed and be wrong, if you use your head, you won't be wrong.

Shopaholic Jan · ‎09-04-2014

I am in my 50's, and I would say from my experiences in life that my heart (my soul) has never steered me wrong. Trust that your soul is guiding you on a path toward your greater good. Then use your head to make it all work out for you. God bless and god luck!

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

@YorkieonmyPillow wrote:
@goldensrbest Your head.
Your heart can be swayed and be wrong, if you use your head, you won't be wrong.

@YorkieonmyPillowOnly if she is completely honest. Facts can be skewered in our minds, too, because we can see what we want to see and rationalize it with our own facts. Thinking can be swayed by the "heart" but it can also be swayed by not owning all the facts and subsequent consequences.

"" Compassion is a verb."-Thich Nhat Hanh

millieshops · ‎03-09-2010

@goldensrbestWouldn't it be wonderful if our head and our heart gave us the same answer/ Way too easy, huh?

I'd like to think my head rules, but I'm probably wrong lots of times, so with a major decision like yours, I'd sit down with a pen and paper and write. And write. And write. I'd make myself see what's really in my mind.

I do the writing because what I've found is that my heart seems to know where it wants to go, but my mind isn't as co-operative and ideas, both pro and con, hide away. For me, the writing process helps me focus and figure out what I really know I'm gaining or losing however I decide.

Hoovermom · ‎03-19-2010

@goldensrbest: If it is a major life changing decision, I would seek the best friend I know and share all of your thoughts. This person should be close enough to you to point out the pros and cons AFTER you have told them how you are leaning toward your conclusion. I always feel if it a major decision, there is counsel in numbers. Good luck!!

Mominohio · ‎08-08-2010

You asked a specific question to which you will indeed receive answers on both sides.

What I would suggest is finding someone you really trust and value their opinions, values, life choices etc. and talk through what you are thinking.

I have a best friend, and we approach things quite differently many times (politics, child rearing etc.), but when I want someone to help sort out things I'm not sure about, that I'm considering all sides of, or struggling with, I know I need to have the input of someone who won't sugar coat things, will think of things related to my issue that I might not have, and someone that is removed enough to not let their 'heart' be the only thing deciding.

Big decisions often need to be bounced off of someone, so you can really hear what you are saying and planning, not just in your own head.