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[Apple Crisp]

I think it depends upon what the decision is all about. If it's

about love, go with your heart. If it's about money, go with your head.

[CrazyDaisy]

Follow your heart, it truly knows how you feel about the decision.  Your head will only cast doubt.

[Bibione]

I am in a similar situation.My family is here but my 87 year old mom is in Italy.I just got back from visiting her for 2 months and she already had to go to the emergency room.Her new doctor gave her the wrong dosage of Coumadin.Mom has 2 housekeepers.I already have a ticket to go back in 1 month.I decided with my husband's approval to go back early and stay there for 3 months.

Then she will go to a private nursing home.I applied for the "public" one which would be a little cheaper,but the waiting list for that one is long.

I hate to leave my husband and daughters for so long, but my mom needs me too.

I thought about it everyday.I didn't make a decision until I was 100% sure it was the best thing to do.

I listened to friends and relatives,but I had to be the one who had to make the decision.Unfortunately, even with travel insurance I might have to pay 500 dollars to change the ticket.

Take your time.

[IamMrsG]

Life has taught me to listen to that small, still voice inside all of us.  It is there specifically for guidance in hard situations.  For example, haven't we all said afterwards, at one time or another, "I knew it. I had a feeling."? 

@goldensrbest  If you're hearing that whisper, have that little feeling, I urge you to follow it.  It is a tiny little thing, can easily be overrun by internal chatter, but it won't let you down if you listen for/to it. 

Best of all things to you.

[Tinkrbl44]

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@CrazyDaisy wrote:

Follow your heart, it truly knows how you feel about the decision.  Your head will only cast doubt.

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@CrazyDaisy

Sorry, but I think that can be a recipe for total disaster.   Feelings change all the time.  Hard facts don't.   

While it's important to consider how one "feels" about a situation, it's also important to focus on what one THINKS about it.   Big difference.

JMO

[Ibby114]

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@YorkieonmyPillow wrote:

@goldensrbest   Your head.

  Your heart can be swayed and be wrong, if you use your head, you won't be wrong.

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Defintiely- trust your gut instinct! That comes from your head. Your heart, with all the emotions, can make you question too much!

[CrazyDaisy]

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@Tinkrbl44 wrote:

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@CrazyDaisy wrote:

Follow your heart, it truly knows how you feel about the decision.  Your head will only cast doubt.

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@CrazyDaisy

Sorry, but I think that can be a recipe for total disaster.   Feelings change all the time.  Hard facts don't.   

While it's important to consider how one "feels" about a situation, it's also important to focus on what one THINKS about it.   Big difference.

JMO

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Poster asked for opinions, I gave her mine as did many others.  I did not put down anyone elses' opinion, why did you feel the need to do that to mine?

[goldensrbest]

Thank you for the replies, i have followed my heart on this,and it just isn't working out,so i need to use my head.

[software]

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@goldensrbest wrote:

I have a very major  decission to make, it will be life changing for me, won't go into what ,but do you listen to your heart,or what your head tells you.

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You  have to work out the pros & cons.

If I do this, then what will happen?

And remember there is no RIGHT answer, only the best answer for you at the time.

I struggle with decisions as well.   There comes a time when you have to pull the trigger.

I wish you the best in your outcome.

[q-girl]

@goldensrbest. . . . I have found that often, when the heart and the mind are in great conflict, you already know what your best choice is - possibly have already made your decision - but that choice is not really what you thought you would ever want or where you thought your future would go. That is where the struggle comes from. The "best" choice is hard, requires a lot of work, and can be hurtful to go through or hurtful to others you care about. Sometimes it's just easier to settle for second best or status quo than to make that change. But, as another poster alluded to. . . . "if you always do what you always did you'll always get what you always got". Good luck with your decision . . . .

Hugs. . .