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[evelomaddict]

i think that they had rainbows come because of her wallet and not because of her. who bills their parents for staying with them? they told her that she would have to pay $60 towards gas. who does that?

[serenity4ever]

R and R, even in the most loving families, a three week visit from mom can be too long. Your son is stuck in the middle because he knows you are at odds with the mother of his child. I remember yesterday you called him a d&ck to his face. Don't leave without apologizing and try and make amends. I hope with counseling you will learn tools to better understand your son. You clearly love him very much. It will also pave the way for a relationship with Jasmine. You may not see a lot of hope for a relationship with her but in the future your son may decide he wants you in his life so that Jasmine will know her Bella...

[Preds]

On 5/9/2014 evelomaddict said:

i think that they had rainbows come because of her wallet and not because of her. who bills their parents for staying with them? they told her that she would have to pay $60 towards gas. who does that?

You have to remember that they are a young couple just starting on their own with a new life and a new baby. i believe he just works partime and they are probably on a very tight budget. Son had been taking her to resturants, museums, malls, different stores, and who knows where so it would/could use up a lot of their gas allowance in order to entertain her. Perhaps she told him she would pay for the gas if he took her these places. She did get out a lot from things she said she saw. She is also upset that she won't get to see more and visit the beach, so that may be part of her anger, too. She just takes it out on son and DIL. No one knows their side to this saga. At times my sympathy goes to them for trying.

[nun ya]

This whole situation is awful.

My only thought was maybe the DIL wants her first Mother's Day to be about her, not sharing it with R&R.

I think Terrier gave some pretty sound advice about leaving on a positive. Hopefully they can all look back and see how petty and mean some of this is.

[Preds]

nunya ... I hope so, too. The whole situation is sad.

[Mistic]

How sad ""if"" you don't want to share Mother's Day with your Mother AND your Wife. 3 generations sharing a special day. I agree with nunya ~ This whole situation is awful.

[nun ya]

I agree Preds, they are young. I always say "you don't know squat until your at least 30". Things that used to bug me are not even on my radar anymore. Life will do that. We all have our quirks, and we deal with it.

[Surfnturf]

On 5/9/2014 terrier3 said:

I'm sorry to hear you are leaving...but please try to go on a high note.

Thank them both for their hospitality...let your son know you love him...kiss the baby and DIL.

You won't be seeing them for some time, leave them on a positive note...no feeling sorry for yourself (at least not that they can see.)

Your son took you to see some sights, you spent a lot of time with Jasmine...think positive.

Please also make sure to start therapy and work at it. It's not easy, but the assistance of a professional can help you learn ways to cope with your situation in life - and make yourself happier and more content.

Terrier, you just offered excellent advice.

[Pqfan]

HUGS for you (((Rainbows and Roses)))

I hope things get better for you and your family.

[Yuban3]

On 5/9/2014 Preds said:

On 5/9/2014 evelomaddict said:

i think that they had rainbows come because of her wallet and not because of her. who bills their parents for staying with them? they told her that she would have to pay $60 towards gas. who does that?

You have to remember that they are a young couple just starting on their own with a new life and a new baby. i believe he just works partime and they are probably on a very tight budget. Son had been taking her to resturants, museums, malls, different stores, and who knows where so it would/could use up a lot of their gas allowance in order to entertain her. Perhaps she told him she would pay for the gas if he took her these places. She did get out a lot from things she said she saw. She is also upset that she won't get to see more and visit the beach, so that may be part of her anger, too. She just takes it out on son and DIL. No one knows their side to this saga. At times my sympathy goes to them for trying.

I see nothing wrong with asking someone to chip in for gas, especially if you are shelping them all over creation.