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[Yuban3]

On 5/9/2014 serenity4ever said: R and R, even in the most loving families, a three week visit from mom can be too long. Your son is stuck in the middle because he knows you are at odds with the mother of his child. I remember yesterday you called him a d&ck to his face. Don't leave without apologizing and try and make amends. I hope with counseling you will learn tools to better understand your son. You clearly love him very much. It will also pave the way for a relationship with Jasmine. You may not see a lot of hope for a relationship with her but in the future your son may decide he wants you in his life so that Jasmine will know her Bella...

Seriously?!

[Surfnturf]

On 5/9/2014 Yuban3 said:

On 5/9/2014 Preds said:

On 5/9/2014 evelomaddict said:

i think that they had rainbows come because of her wallet and not because of her. who bills their parents for staying with them? they told her that she would have to pay $60 towards gas. who does that?

You have to remember that they are a young couple just starting on their own with a new life and a new baby. i believe he just works partime and they are probably on a very tight budget. Son had been taking her to resturants, museums, malls, different stores, and who knows where so it would/could use up a lot of their gas allowance in order to entertain her. Perhaps she told him she would pay for the gas if he took her these places. She did get out a lot from things she said she saw. She is also upset that she won't get to see more and visit the beach, so that may be part of her anger, too. She just takes it out on son and DIL. No one knows their side to this saga. At times my sympathy goes to them for trying.

I see nothing wrong with asking someone to chip in for gas, especially if you are shelping them all over creation.

But this isn't just 'someone.' It's his mom. When my mom visits I shlep her wherever she wants to go, even though I don't always want to.

[CouponQueen]

The part I missed...was they actually asked her to leave..and they asked her outright for money?

[brii]

Therapy is not the simple fix to her problems. This is a strange family dynamic.

Remember, we are only getting one side to the story from a person who obviously has perception issues.

[CouponQueen]

On 5/9/2014 wookie said:

On 5/9/2014 Yuban3 said:

On 5/9/2014 Preds said:

On 5/9/2014 evelomaddict said:

i think that they had rainbows come because of her wallet and not because of her. who bills their parents for staying with them? they told her that she would have to pay $60 towards gas. who does that?

You have to remember that they are a young couple just starting on their own with a new life and a new baby. i believe he just works partime and they are probably on a very tight budget. Son had been taking her to resturants, museums, malls, different stores, and who knows where so it would/could use up a lot of their gas allowance in order to entertain her. Perhaps she told him she would pay for the gas if he took her these places. She did get out a lot from things she said she saw. She is also upset that she won't get to see more and visit the beach, so that may be part of her anger, too. She just takes it out on son and DIL. No one knows their side to this saga. At times my sympathy goes to them for trying.

I see nothing wrong with asking someone to chip in for gas, especially if you are shelping them all over creation.

But this isn't just 'someone.' It's his mom. When my mom visits I shlep her wherever she wants to go, even though I don't always want to.

My mom lives close by and drives but still do this..to some MD's..shopping with me..it is my Mom..lol..I don't always want to but do it.

[Yuban3]

On 5/9/2014 wookie said:

On 5/9/2014 Yuban3 said:

On 5/9/2014 Preds said:

On 5/9/2014 evelomaddict said:

i think that they had rainbows come because of her wallet and not because of her. who bills their parents for staying with them? they told her that she would have to pay $60 towards gas. who does that?

You have to remember that they are a young couple just starting on their own with a new life and a new baby. i believe he just works partime and they are probably on a very tight budget. Son had been taking her to resturants, museums, malls, different stores, and who knows where so it would/could use up a lot of their gas allowance in order to entertain her. Perhaps she told him she would pay for the gas if he took her these places. She did get out a lot from things she said she saw. She is also upset that she won't get to see more and visit the beach, so that may be part of her anger, too. She just takes it out on son and DIL. No one knows their side to this saga. At times my sympathy goes to them for trying.

I see nothing wrong with asking someone to chip in for gas, especially if you are shelping them all over creation.

But this isn't just 'someone.' It's his mom. When my mom visits I shlep her wherever she wants to go, even though I don't always want to.

Family or not, if you are taking them here, there and everywhere, that's gas that you are using, not to mention wear and tear on the vehicle.

Last month when my dad and I were out of town, my cousin (his niece) asked us to pay for gas, because she was going out of her way to do a lot of driving for us.

We thought nothing of it. We gladly put $40 worth of gas in to her vehicle.

[QueenDanceALot]

On 5/9/2014 Yuban3 said:

On 5/9/2014 serenity4ever said: R and R, even in the most loving families, a three week visit from mom can be too long. Your son is stuck in the middle because he knows you are at odds with the mother of his child. I remember yesterday you called him a d&ck to his face. Don't leave without apologizing and try and make amends. I hope with counseling you will learn tools to better understand your son. You clearly love him very much. It will also pave the way for a relationship with Jasmine. You may not see a lot of hope for a relationship with her but in the future your son may decide he wants you in his life so that Jasmine will know her Bella...

Seriously?!

That's what I read yesterday that she'd said.

Maybe he is one. Maybe he isn't. Or maybe he's only partly.

I'm sure there are dynamics in this relationship that we don't know anything about. After all, we only hear one side of the story.

I suspect R&R is going to have to confront her own contributions to the discord when she goes into therapy. And I also suspect that she's going to fight the therapist tooth and nail about it.

[SydneyH]

On 5/9/2014 brii said:

Therapy is not the simple fix to her problems. This is a strange family dynamic.

Remember, we are only getting one side to the story from a person who obviously has perception issues.

Clearly they don't want her there, again I highly suggest going to the airport TODAY and taking a stand by flight home. This is toxic insanity.

[Yuban3]

On 5/9/2014 brii said:

Therapy is not the simple fix to her problems. This is a strange family dynamic.

Remember, we are only getting one side to the story from a person who obviously has perception issues.

Therapy may not be a "simple fix", but I think that it will go a long way in helping her to cope with her situations better.

[Suziepeach]

On 5/9/2014 Preds said:

nunya ... I hope so, too. The whole situation is sad.

I am in complete agreement. I, for one, know what it feels like to be absolutely heart broken by a child, my only child. Several Mother Day's went forgotten- lots of tears shed but I prevailed. We worked our issues out & I pray the same, one day, happens for our R&R. It breaks my heart knowing how she feels & all alone.