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[Newgate]

I am of the generation of people that living together before marriage was not accepted by society!  I have been married for over 50 years now!  I have one child who did live with his now wife and they seem to be happy for about 18 years now!  But I have 1 nephew and 1 niece that also lived with their special person, then got married and after a few years they both got divorced! 

I hear people say "oh it is better to live together first and then they will know", meaning if they can get along!  I am not so sure if that is true!  However, I am from the old school!!

What do you think?

[phoenixbrd]

I think you can't make generalizations.  All people and situations are different.  It is an interesting topic, but just conjecture.

[JaneMarple]

Each couple are unique and I wouldn't base my opinion on statistics, otherwise it's none of my business.

[151949]

It is more common than not now a days for couples to live together before marriage now.Usually these days couples who date for any time at all do live together.

[sunshine45]

marriage is for some, but not for everyone.

living together is for some, but not for everyone.

staying single and living alone is for some, but not for everyone.

casual relationships are for some, but not for everyone.

long distance relationships are for some, but not for everyone.

in other words, every relationship is unique and cannot be pinned down to one single answer by people outside of the relationship.

[MyGirlsMom]

People live together instead of marrying for a variety of reasons. 

Some do it for financial reasons. A lot of older people live together because of social security or pensions.

Some people live together because they don't understand what it takes to be committed to another person.

btw. OP, I don't like the idea pf people living together before marriage either but I mind my own business and don't judge. 

[itiswhatitis]

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@Newgate wrote:

I am of the generation of people that living together before marriage was not accepted by society!  I have been married for over 50 years now!  I have one child who did live with his now wife and they seem to be happy for about 18 years now!  But I have 1 nephew and 1 niece that also lived with their special person, then got married and after a few years they both got divorced! 

I hear people say "oh it is better to live together first and then they will know", meaning if they can get along!  I am not so sure if that is true!  However, I am from the old school!!

What do you think?

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I could care less what "people" do.  To each his/her own.  I was raised by southern mother and father who tried to instill those moral values on me.  That was fine, until I got on my own.

If my son or daughter don't want committed relationships, that's their business and I will not love them any less for it.  This is the twenty first century.

[jaxs mom]

Well I lived with 4 different men before I got married. But I've only been married once as I found the keeper. I don't have a problem with it. My mom had two divorces and then lived with her current husband for over 10 years before they got married. 

[KarenQVC]

My opinion is that young people should live together only after there is a ring and a wedding date set.  Otherwise too many women are strung out by the men.

[Noel7]

@Newgate

I'm probably your generation or close to it and it was very common to live together before marriage.  I suspect where we lived may have had something to do with it, but that was par for the course in California and true for my husband and me.

IMO it is a good idea, you don't know a person until you've lived with them.