Community Chat

[Noel7]

There are too many incidents of women marrying a man only to then find out he's abusive.

[Ballard1]

Eventually that will come out living together or not.  No one should rush into getting married get to know the person.  There are no gurantee's about anyone.

Be careful of where you meet these men.  There are signs if you stay together long enough.

[NativeJax]

My parents stayed married "for the kids". They divorced when I was 5 and remarried sometime after that, they were the most miserable married couple and it was terrible to be around it. I forgive my parents but I think they would have been a lot happier apart and I know I would.

I don't have an answer to what is best practices. I think a lot of reasons people live together today is financial and convienence. People barely date and then suddenly they are living together.

It doesn't really bother me to much to be honest.

[Noel7]

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@Ballard1 wrote:

Eventually that will come out living together or not.  No one should rush into getting married get to know the person.  There are no gurantee's about anyone.

Be careful of where you meet these men.  There are signs if you stay together long enough.

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I met mine at church, in the high school youth group.  We started dating when we went to the same university and still attended the same church.

Better for abuse to come out while you can easily walk away rather than when there are legal complications.

[NativeJax]

I just want people to be happy and be kind and decent human beings. If they live together and they can be thise 3 things, I am satisfied:-)

[MyGirlsMom]

Women as well as men need to trust their gut instincts.  Oprah calls it, 'a whisper and Gavin de Becker calls it, "The Gift of Fear."  If you sense something is wrong, don't ignore it, don't excuse it, and as Maya Angelou said, "people show you who they are, believe them the first time."

[JaneMarple]

I'm in my fifties, divorced and the mother of four. My divorce doesn't sour my vision of marriage but I know that personally I won't do it again.

Only one of my kids is married and I'm not the type of parent that is asking the other three when are you going to settle down? Marriage is a serious matter and so is living together. 

[Jk9]

I believe that living together is a personal decision best made by each couple and not by society. I would not consider marrying someone without living with them first, for lots of reasons. I also would not marry someone I met recently. A marriage needs more than love to make it work and time gives you an opportunity to work on things.

[carlycat]

I say, MYOB.