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[NYCLatinaMe]

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@Jordan2 wrote:

So I don't want to come off as a Polly-Anna or a Goody-Two-Shoes ( I'm not), but this is me. I always try to tell the truth and do the right thing, be a good citizen. I went to the doctor yesterday, I have met my deductible and knew I owed a copay. I say to the receptionist can I give you my copay now, she looked at me in disbelief. She said most people head for the exit trying to leave without paying the copay. Why do that, you know you owe it, it's the right thing to pay it upon leaving the office. I said to the receptionist I feel I am a representation of my parents when I go out into the world, I would never want to do anything to embarrass them or disrespect them ( they are both deceased). I think the medical assistant thought I was crazy, although she said that's nice. Am I a relic, does anyone think the same as I do?

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I always check with reception before leaving the doctor's office.  I have never given it any thought or received any medals for it.

[rms1954]

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@Nancy Drew wrote:

Character is what you do when no one is watching.

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Character is also about not announcing that you chose to do what's right no matter what the circustance.

[Lindsays Grandma]

No, you are not being a Goody-Two-Shoe or Polly-Anna.  You are being an honest person who is doing exactly what you should be doing and you should be proud of yourself.  You don't ever have to worry about feeling guilty and that sure helps being able to sleep good at night.

[Carmie]

I don't understand why someone would think anyone was a goody two shoes or a Pollyanna for paying their bills when they are owed.

This is the normal behavior in society.

Some people might not have the money on the spot and might have to wait until they get paid so they would need to be billed.  Doctor offices prefer to be paid when services are rendered, but if you have shown responsible behavior in the past in paying your bills, they might allow you to pay later.

Often, if you have a deductible, it is prudent not to pay your bill when you check out at the desk.  The insurance company will determine how much you owe the doctor...not the doctor.  

[Carmie]

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@rms1954 wrote:

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@Nancy Drew wrote:

Character is what you do when no one is watching.

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Character is also about not announcing that you chose to do what's right no matter what the circustance.

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I wouldn't call that character.  It is called integrity.

[Mmsfoxxie]

Since I have Plan F, I don't have any copays to deal with.  But when I have my eyes examined twice a year, one of the exams includes a refraction which is not paid for by insurance.  This is told to you when you come in and you are required to pay $40.  One time the clerk forgot to tell me.   I never think of a refraction with in my exam.  My point is, sometimes a person forgets.  I got a bill in the mail a week or so later and I paid it.  No problem.

[WenGirl42]

Yes, doing the right thing is good and important.  I can't say it ever crosses my mind that I (as an adult) am a reflection of my parents when I'm out in the world, though.  Nor do I interpret the behavior of other adults as being reflective of anyone other than themselves.

[qualitygal]

Cheers to all us relics!!!

[noodleann]

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@Jordan2 wrote:

So I don't want to come off as a Polly-Anna or a Goody-Two-Shoes ( I'm not), but this is me. I always try to tell the truth and do the right thing, be a good citizen. I went to the doctor yesterday, I have met my deductible and knew I owed a copay. I say to the receptionist can I give you my copay now, she looked at me in disbelief. She said most people head for the exit trying to leave without paying the copay. Why do that, you know you owe it, it's the right thing to pay it upon leaving the office. I said to the receptionist I feel I am a representation of my parents when I go out into the world, I would never want to do anything to embarrass them or disrespect them ( they are both deceased). I think the medical assistant thought I was crazy, although she said that's nice. Am I a relic, does anyone think the same as I do?

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What I don't understand is how you can see paying what you owe as a mitzvah that should be bragged about to strangers. It's what the insurance requires. "The right thing to do" applies in situations where good behavior is optional, and this doesn't qualify.

In some faiths, even talking about--much less boasting about--your good works nullifies their value in the eyes of the deity. This isn't even a good work, so it's just kind of embarrassing.

[Jordan2]

I’m the OP, some of you I think took this the wrong way. I’m not looking for pats on the back or credit for doing the right thing. It was just me saying how I conduct my life, I’m not special at all. Everyone should conduct themselves as they see fit with no judgements from anyone.