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[Kachina624]

Paragraphs are your friend. Reading that is too hard on the eyes.

[JustJules]

On 3/10/2015 Kachina624 said: Paragraphs are your friend. Reading that is too hard on the eyes.

That's what you bothered to tell me? I have some advice for you then...don't read it.

[Mothertrucker]

Jules, i can only imagine how horrible this made you feel- you were genuinely enjoying your working time with him, and he ruined it for you (both)- Honestly, I think he probably really enjoyed your company, and was so very lonely that he was totally inappropriate...i really don't think he EVER thought of you as a prostitute in any way...please don't think that-

There are lots of men, as all women know, that htink they can get away with things like this..the old "boys will be boys" mentality.. and they DO get away with it- good that you stood your ground- i think he lost a lot more than you did - but I am sorry you lost your trust in him.. that is a very bad feeling...

[JustJules]

On 3/10/2015 Mothertrucker said:

Jules, i can only imagine how horrible this made you feel- you were genuinely enjoying your working time with him, and he ruined it for you (both)- Honestly, I think he probably really enjoyed your company, and was so very lonely that he was totally inappropriate...i really don't think he EVER thought of you as a prostitute in any way...please don't think that-

There are lots of men, as all women know, that htink they can get away with things like this..the old "boys will be boys" mentality.. and they DO get away with it- good that you stood your ground- i think he lost a lot more than you did - but I am sorry you lost your trust in him.. that is a very bad feeling...

Thank you. You understand exactly how I feel. I wish I didn't have to draw the line with him because I know he is lonely and needs a friend, but if I return it's telling him that his behavior was okay...some things just can't be undone, no matter how disappointing they are.

[Lillyrose]

Jules, you did the right thing!!! I have been a nurse for over 3 decades and have seen all kinds of inappropriate behavior. Just be glad you don't have to work with him again. Sleep well, you should have no regrets. You were being kind to him, that's all. And yes, document this situation for your employer.

[Love my grandkids]

Since you are reporting the facts to your employer, that is NOT a violation of HIPAA (not HIPPA!) regulations. You absolutely did the right thing.

[lovesrecess]

On 3/10/2015 NoelSeven said: Jules, that kind of behavior can be a sign of dementia. Consider informing a next of kin or his MD.

I agree.....your company needs to let his MD know and send a male caretaker in the future....he clearly needs care so to just no longer provide any shouldn't be an option. Sorry you had to deal with this type of situation but unfortunately it is not uncommon in those with dementia, etc.

[ivey]

It's fortunate that you got out of there without worse happening. You handled it well, and your agency needs to let him go. Or send a male to care for him.

[missy1]

Document everything.

[dreamytoo]

Awww Jules, I am so sorry that happened to you...you handled things properly. Now don't go back there.

I spent a lot of years as a server and bartender...and through those years I developed quite a large following of what my friends called my "stalkers on walkers" LOL. I think many old men mistake compassion for attraction or interest. I was just trying to be helpful because many of them needed a little extra help...but they took it as something entirely different.

I hope you get a good nights sleep and don't worry all night about it.