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[Mj12]

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@Shorty2U wrote:

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@bikerbabe wrote:
Or this Is when the dog gets him up to go outside every morning.

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Yes I thought of the dog getting him up. But they just built a huge fence to fence in their yard out back, so why would they let the dog go on their front grass? And the dog isn't with him all the time.  Usually people turn their head (look down or whatever) whether they're facing straight sitting or not. He stares until 457 AM (right before my husband leaves) Also hes not on his steps or porch. Hes sitting on the slate slabs that lead up the grass (If they weren't there he would be on the grass). I dont know maybe he is meditating. I never saw anyone sit like that like a statue staring straight. 

And im up at 4 AM a lot because i have insomnia. I sleep at like 5 to 10 or 11 AM since I dont work. anymore. And my husband gets up at 4 AM for work! 

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Because we were taught in our pup's obedience classes, that playtime/exercise is playtime/exercise, and doing their business is entirely different. 

Perhaps the neighbor is asking his wife if she has noticed the neighbors across the street watching them?

Finally, of course it is always smart to be alert.  But I'd think I'd go knock and ask him what is up, before my mind came up with different scenarios of all the evil he is planning.  JMO.

[SharkE]

I'll trade. My neighbor put up a chicken coop and bought in 6 little black chickens and I pray no rooster. They got 2 kids. already have 2 dogs they do keep in fenced boarded up yard, now, they had to have chickens.

This is an upscale country suburb can't get in for less then 300,000. Maybe some less. Why do you need chickens? go to Walmart get chicken and eggs

LOL

I figure this will be another passing phase in the adventure of raising kids, soon as they tire of the fascination should pass. Mama is the one who is doing all the work like I figured.  Man is a cop , so, end of discussion.

[Allegheny]

It is always good to be aware of your surroundings and be observant.  But you can only speculate what your neighbor is doing unless you start a conversation.  Perhaps he has the dog in the back yard and he sits out front to let the dog do its thing quietly so not to wake his wife.  Perhaps he enjoys the quiet of the early morning for a bit.  I know I do.  I would be curious about it but not get paranoid.

It would be nice if when you and DH see him or his wife outside in the day to go over and introduce yourselves and welcome them to the neighborhood.  Perhaps even exchange telephone numbers for emergency purposes if you feel comfortable.

[occasionalrain]

Obviously, he lets the dog out into the back yard, doesn't stay with him because the dog will bark and want to play and he doesn't want to wake his wife or the neighbors. It's the same reason he sits away from the house, perhaps talking on his phone or there is an animal in your yard he's watching. He returns inside and brings his dog in before your husband leaves to prevent his dog from barking at hearing him and disturbing his wife and the neighbors.

Shining a light on him as another poster suggested is harassment and guaranteed to cause ill feelings, justified, with your neighbor.

Actually, what the OP is doing is spying on her neighbor, not nice.

[Vivian]

I can’t tell whether the OP’s neighbor is just weird, eerie, or potentially dangerous. My neighbor across the street made a fire every night at about midnight. He left his wife and kids and moved overseas so the burning stopped, but I never knew what the fires were about. I live in a residential neighborhood but one set of neighbors has a cow, two sheep, guinea fowl, and now chickens. They are definitely free range because they make their way to my lawn frequently. My beagle has become so blasé about these creatures that she just ignores them.

[AuntG]

Someone I worked with always was up by 4am for quiet time and prayer. I'd try not to worry because he probably isn't actually staring at you house, although it looks like that to you.

[YorkieonmyPillow]

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@Shorty2U wrote:

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@YorkieonmyPillow wrote:

This may be a dumb question but if it's dark outside, how can you tell he is staring at your home? @Shorty2U

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There is a street light in our development. (its a country development of homes)

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He probably just appears to be staring at your house because it's directly across from him.

Sometimes when I'm concentrating on something, I will stare at an object.

I think you are worrying a little too much about this person; as long as he stays in his own yard, I think you will be fine. I CERTAINLY would not try to light him up with a floodlight!

Perhaps when he's outside in the daytime/afternoon you could meet him and get to know him.

I agree with the person who said he's a "neighborhood watch"........having him outside could be a plus.

[Lucky Charm]

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@occasionalrain wrote:

Obviously, he lets the dog out into the back yard, doesn't stay with him because the dog will bark and want to play and he doesn't want to wake his wife or the neighbors. It's the same reason he sits away from the house, perhaps talking on his phone or there is an animal in your yard he's watching. He returns inside and brings his dog in before your husband leaves to prevent his dog from barking at hearing him and disturbing his wife and the neighbors.

Shining a light on him as another poster suggested is harassment and guaranteed to cause ill feelings, justified, with your neighbor.

Actually, what the OP is doing is spying on her neighbor, not nice.

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I meant to turn the light on when he comes out.  Not a blaring search light.  

Geez people.

Simply turning the light on.  Nothing freaking illegal about that.

There is nothing wrong with being aware of what is going on in your neighborhood. 

Seems the OP is feeling a bit frightened because she is alone once her husband leaves particularly early.  She even worries about her DH walking around outside that early.

Things do happen.  You don't have to be in a shady neighborhood for something bad to happen.  So many tragedies you read the neighbors 'thought something was weird', but never said or did anything.

[cherry]

He isn't doing anything to anyone all he is doing is sitting our in his own yard ,minding his own business. He isn't making noise, throwing a party, window peeking. He is being treated like a criminal, for no reason at all

[reiki604]

Not creepy at all. Like others here have said, I would introduce myself to my neighbor. Just because you don't live in a friendly neighborhood doesn't mean you can't be cordial and civil. When and what he does on his own property is his own business. I have chairs and table on my small porch outside my house. Sometimes I'll sit there early in the AM drinking my coffee while it is still cool and quiet. My chairs happen to face the house directly across the street. I don't stare at them but they might think I am. If I do notice them, I wave and go back to sitting quietly. While we are not friends, we do know who the other is.

If I were so fearful of everything and everyone in my neighborhood I would no longer live there and find someplace that I felt safe and secure. Maybe an independent living facility or something like that might be better for your peace of mind.