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[Pqfan]

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@tends2dogs wrote:

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@cherry wrote:

You have that much going for you. That is a big plus..A ray of sunlight

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I agree with @cherry .  I think you have to make a plan, but in the meantime, try not to fall into a deep hole of depression.  Think positive, find positive.  You are not tied financially to him meaning you aren't on a lease with him, etc.  It doesn't sound like he is physically abusive.  I realize there are all kinds of abuse, but for right now, you are safe.  Start job searching.  Perhaps go to church.  You need to surround yourself with people that are good and that you may need to lean on. And as @cherry  said, set a date to leave and work toward that goal.  

I wish you all the best.  We are all here for you!

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@tends2dogsThanks. Yes I am safe. We go places he does alot of nice things for me but I just can't deal with this bond he has with this woman.

It makes me feel awful.

[cherry]

This is a hot line  go there and ask for help...you need to  right away

https://www.thehotline.org/

[Pqfan]

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@cherry wrote:

This is a hot line  go there and ask for help...you need to  right away

https://www.thehotline.org/

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Thanks @cherry 

[QueenDanceALot]

If he has been at all abusive, verbally or physically, you must get out now.

Did he tell you he is moving and you need to find somewhere else to live?

[esmerelda]

@Pqfan  We’re they married?  Living together?

Did he leave her for you?

Is she involved with someone else?

Do you think she is better than you?

Did he used to live in the town he’s moving you to?

What reason has he given for moving there?

Why can’t you “get out of the move”?

Do you not have your own money?

Have you talked to him honestly about your concerns?

[Pqfan]

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@QueenDanceALot wrote:

If he has been at all abusive, verbally or physically, you must get out now.

Did he tell you he is moving and you need to find somewhere else to live?

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@QueenDanceALotNo he actually thinks I am happy.

I am good at hiding my feelings.

[QueenDanceALot]

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@Pqfan wrote:

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@QueenDanceALot wrote:

If he has been at all abusive, verbally or physically, you must get out now.

Did he tell you he is moving and you need to find somewhere else to live?

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@QueenDanceALotNo he actually thinks I am happy.

I am good at hiding my feelings.

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@Pqfan 

I am confused again.

Does he expect you to move with him?

[esmerelda]

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@cherry wrote:

This is a hot line  go there and ask for help...you need to  right away

https://www.thehotline.org/

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That sounds like an overreaction to me. She’s worried her boyfriend loves somebody else. I didn’t know they had hotlines for that.  Unless I missed the post about how he’s abusing her.

[Pqfan]

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@esmerelda wrote:

@Pqfan  We’re they married?  Living together? No

Did he leave her for you? No

Is she involved with someone else? Maybe?

Do you think she is better than you? Sometimes.

Did he used to live in the town he’s moving you to? No

What reason has he given for moving there? lower rent

Why can’t you “get out of the move”? I used up all my inheritance because I was so depressed after my moms death,

Do you not have your own money? Not enough.

Have you talked to him honestly about your concerns? Not really.

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[Pqfan]

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@QueenDanceALot wrote:

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@Pqfan wrote:

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@QueenDanceALot wrote:

If he has been at all abusive, verbally or physically, you must get out now.

Did he tell you he is moving and you need to find somewhere else to live?

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@QueenDanceALotNo he actually thinks I am happy.

I am good at hiding my feelings.

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@Pqfan 

I am confused again.

Does he expect you to move with him?

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Yes. He said he wants me to have a nicer house.