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Unless he's the only man around, I think you know what to do.  

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@Pqfan wrote:

He is also moving us to the town where she lives. Smiley Sad


Okay, now that does not sound good for you at all.  

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@cherry wrote:

Can you get out before the move?


@cherry  No.

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@Pqfan wrote:

He is also moving us to the town where she lives. Smiley Sad


@Pqfan 

 

So you aren't living together?

 

If he is moving then can't you stay where you are?

 

Maybe I'm confused about the circumstances.

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Sweetie go to a womans shelter ASAP. There might be an organization that can help you

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@Pqfan wrote:

@QueenDanceALot wrote:

@Pqfan 

 

Saying that he is fixing the pearls for her is a giant red flag unless he's a jeweler.

 

Your posts are very clear that you see what's happening and you don't wnat to stay in the relationship.  I think that's a very healthy response.

 

I am sorry you are so sad.  I agree that you need OUT and and the sooner the better.

 

 


@QueenDanceALotThanks. I kept trying to ignore this feeling and sweep it under the rug but I can't do it any longer.


@Pqfan 

 

I was in a relationship a number of years ago where I ignored the sirens going off and it did not end well.  I KNEW I should have stopped the relationship but kept hoping the sirens were just me being a little crazy.

 

 

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@cherry wrote:

You have that much going for you. That is a big plus..A ray of sunlight


I agree with @cherry .  I think you have to make a plan, but in the meantime, try not to fall into a deep hole of depression.  Think positive, find positive.  You are not tied financially to him meaning you aren't on a lease with him, etc.  It doesn't sound like he is physically abusive.  I realize there are all kinds of abuse, but for right now, you are safe.  Start job searching.  Perhaps go to church.  You need to surround yourself with people that are good and that you may need to lean on. And as @cherry  said, set a date to leave and work toward that goal.  

 

I wish you all the best.  We are all here for you!

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@cherry wrote:

Sweetie go to a womans shelter ASAP. There might be an organization that can help you


@Pqfan In my town there is a YWCA shelter.  See if there is one near you.  

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@QueenDanceALot wrote:

@Pqfan wrote:

He is also moving us to the town where she lives. Smiley Sad


@Pqfan 

 

So you aren't living together?

 

If he is moving then can't you stay where you are?

 

Maybe I'm confused about the circumstances.


I am living with him now and he is moving. This is his place we are in.

 

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This is considered abuse

 

 

You may be experiencing physical abuse if your partner has done or repeatedly does any of the following tactics of abuse:

  • Pulling your hair, punching, slapping, kicking, biting or choking you
  • Forbidding you from eating or sleeping
  • Hurting you with weapons
  • Preventing you from calling the police or seeking medical attention
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  • Driving recklessly or dangerously when you are in the car with them
  • Forcing you to use drugs or alcohol (especially if you’ve had a substance abuse problem in the past)