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[Nancy Drew]

You seem to have a lot of friends and good wishes here. That is wonderful. However maybe you are irked in general about your birthday. You seem to be on the younger side so maybe and this is just a maybe: You might be wishing that you had more to do than go to a lunch with an older lady. The good news is that you have a whole year to make next years better. It is amazing where someone can be in a year from now. Maybe some activities where you can meet friends your own age would help. If anyone finds this snarky it wasn't meant to be.

[sylviahomeatlast]

Kachina---maybe I could drive down. ((((((((((((kachina)))))))))))

[sylviahomeatlast]

Jules---I would treat you at a very nice club---but, you know, I'm an old lady----remember? a cute 70---good birthday wishes

[abbeythe 8th]

If the friend were my peer, I'd be disappointed. If the friend were an elderly person in a nursing home, it would not bother me in the least.

As the OP pointed out to me recently, she chooses to give a person the BOTD.

[raven-blackbird]

okay........a friend didn't want you to spend your birthday by yourself.......so she did the best she could and gave you the most valuable present... her time.......what difference in the long run of things if you had to pay part of the bill for lunch........this woman, who does not sound like she is in the best of health, went to the effort to get herself ready.......which I don't imagine is an easy thing to do with a walker in tow.........wanted to up the lunch by having lunch at Applebees instead of iHOP...........lets face it, that 20 would have covered lunch there........and did her best effort to show YOU that you are important in her life.........important enough not to have you spend your birthday alone................dunno.............I still think there's a lot of wisdom in the sentence.......it's the thought that counts.......................................raven

[circles]

Happy Birthday, Jules....

I would have been ticked off, too...and,like you, would have preferred to stay home alone and watched a movie...

What would have made me more angry is your "friend" will be telling everyone how she "treated" you to a nice lunch...get all the credit for something she didn't do...

Sorry this happened to you....

[voyager1980]

On 6/20/2014 raven-blackbird said:

okay........a friend didn't want you to spend your birthday by yourself.......so she did the best she could and gave you the most valuable present... her time.......what difference in the long run of things if you had to pay part of the bill for lunch........this woman, who does not sound like she is in the best of health, went to the effort to get herself ready.......which I don't imagine is an easy thing to do with a walker in tow.........wanted to up the lunch by having lunch at Applebees instead of iHOP...........lets face it, that 20 would have covered lunch there........and did her best effort to show YOU that you are important in her life.........important enough not to have you spend your birthday alone................dunno.............I still think there's a lot of wisdom in the sentence.......it's the thought that counts.......................................raven

Thats beautifully said & I agree. Reading all the thread I feel sad for the lady who-- as you said-- gave a very great gift & is sort of being the brunt of a lot of criticism now. jmho

[Sabatini2]

On 6/20/2014 raven-blackbird said:

okay........a friend didn't want you to spend your birthday by yourself.......so she did the best she could and gave you the most valuable present... her time.......what difference in the long run of things if you had to pay part of the bill for lunch........this woman, who does not sound like she is in the best of health, went to the effort to get herself ready.......which I don't imagine is an easy thing to do with a walker in tow.........wanted to up the lunch by having lunch at Applebees instead of iHOP...........lets face it, that 20 would have covered lunch there........and did her best effort to show YOU that you are important in her life.........important enough not to have you spend your birthday alone................dunno.............I still think there's a lot of wisdom in the sentence.......it's the thought that counts.......................................raven

The trouble is, raven, it wasn't all that thoughtful. It was the friend's idea in the 1st place, & she offered to treat. What if Jules had brought no money along, assuming it was truly going to be a treat? That would've been embarrassing!

[adelle38]

On 6/20/2014 raven-blackbird said:

okay........a friend didn't want you to spend your birthday by yourself.......so she did the best she could and gave you the most valuable present... her time.......what difference in the long run of things if you had to pay part of the bill for lunch........this woman, who does not sound like she is in the best of health, went to the effort to get herself ready.......which I don't imagine is an easy thing to do with a walker in tow.........wanted to up the lunch by having lunch at Applebees instead of iHOP...........lets face it, that 20 would have covered lunch there........and did her best effort to show YOU that you are important in her life.........important enough not to have you spend your birthday alone................dunno.............I still think there's a lot of wisdom in the sentence.......it's the thought that counts.......................................raven

I agree.

[voyager1980]

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