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[I am still oxox]

Does she have two sisters, what I read is her sister commite suicide in May. Somethings in this post do not make sense to me.

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@Natasha218 wrote:

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@Katcat1 wrote:

@hsawaknow,  I have never heard of not earning enough money for Sec 8.  That is crazy.  They base your rent on your income but you have to get on a waiting list for apts.  You may have to live with your sister and make some kind of arrangment for your husband to put your son on a plane to Colorado to see you for vacations or something.  I lived in CA for 4-1/2 years in San Francisco.  Yes, rents are very high and so are the prices of homes.  I was glad to move  back to the midwest where I get my money's worth.  Hope you are doing well.  Take care.

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        Yes, I caught that Sec 8 thing too.   Made no sense whatsoever.  She doesn't know what sec 8 is and it appears she has issues that she didn't go into.  She really needs to be with her sister.

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[NickNack]

@hsawaknow  I really feel for you.  Have you applied for disability?  It sounds like you would qualify.  Don't apply on your own.  You need an attorney.  You don't pay them.  Their fee is taken out of your earnings.  You would get a lump sum from the years you haven't worked and a certain amount per month based on what you made when you were working.  It takes a long time (over a year) for it to go through, but I would very much encourage you to do this.  You've gotten some good ideas on here of other places to go for help.

[I am still oxox]

You can only claim disability if you have a work history

You definitely do not need an attorney for disability, unless you are rejected. I applied and filled out all the paper work ,on line and via mail which was long and tedious and I qualified.

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@Nicknack wrote:

@hsawaknow  I really feel for you.  Have you applied for disability?  It sounds like you would qualify.  Don't apply on your own.  You need an attorney.  You don't pay them.  Their fee is taken out of your earnings.  You would get a lump sum from the years you haven't worked and a certain amount per month based on what you made when you were working.  It takes a long time (over a year) for it to go through, but I would very much encourage you to do this.  You've gotten some good ideas on here of other places to go for help.

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[Cakers3]

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@Katcat1 wrote:

@Cakers3,  $1,200 a month would qualify you for Sec 8.

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@Katcat1  Yes, I'm sure it would.  That's almost nothing to live on, really,  I think the OP may be a bit confused with all the stress she is feeling and not quite focusing on what is being said to her.

It's easy in her situation to have her thoughts on other things while trying to focus on something else.  All jumbled up, if you will.

[NicksmomESQ]

 @hsawaknow - You can't just be thrown out of your room.There are laws that protect tenants.Get a legal aide attorney asap!! I had a tenant who stopped paying rent.It took me 6 months to get them out.I had to go through the courts & there were procedures that had to be followed!!  Tell her you're not leaving until you can find a place to live.Get a lawyer!!

          - You're entitled to more assistance than you realize An attorney can help you sort it all out.

          - Take your ex back to court.If you truly can't work he owes you more money!!

[scatcat]

Since you are only asking for prayers, not advice, I will pray for you. 

[feline groovy]

If you're 55 or over, there's lower-income apartment and other communities available. Search online for emergency housing. Call your local Salvation Army office. Depending on your age, contact your local agency on aging. Contact your county's assistance agencies. Contact your local churches or synagogues. Search online for local social services agencies. Contact your local rooming and boarding houses. Get suggestions and referrals from everyone at all of these places. Call your local homelessness hotlines.

Search not only Cupertino, but less-expensive towns within a decent driving distance from your son. It may be longer than you've had or prefer, but shelter (even if it's temporary) is your most important concern right now, especially with a chronic health challenge.

HTH, miracles happen, heartfelt prayers & good vibes to you.

[suzyQ3]

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@missy1 wrote:

I just reread your first post Op, You get 1200 a month for  alimony. Many here just make a little bit over that a month.  Again you are very lucky, epecially if this for life.

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@missy1@, even in one of the cheapest cities in the country, an apartment would cost her just about half of that @1200. More likely, even elsewhere than California, she would be spending close to that monthly alimony. If she has no other source of income, she just couldn't make it.

I sure hope that she can get some aid. She sounds extremely depressed and not physically well.

[Annabellethecat66]

My little sister would be in your situation (except for the health problems) but we in her family help her out.  I recently gave her $2,000 to get a car.  She found a wonderful car and now can get to work.  I'm the only one in the family who has the money to help out family members.  Her daughter has given her places to live and she now has her own apartment and a job.

I'm sorry you are going through this.  There are a lot of people (especially females and single moms) who are in similar situations.  It's terrible.

If I were you I'd go (not call) to the local Red Cross and tell them your situation about needing someplace to stay quickly.  It's my understanding they are usually good at that.  I just saw where in Washingon, DC (I live in Va) an entire huge housing unit is closing down and hundreds of people are being put out.  The Red Cross is finding places for them to stay for a little while.  They also find places to apply for financial help.  The Salvation Army is another good one.

Please let us know how you are doing as we will all be thinking and saying a prayer for you.