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On 2/17/2015 reese2 said:

I've noticed on this BB that some people with no filter refer to themselves as no-nonsense, to the point and telling it like it is. Some of us have other names for it.

Hi, reese!

I agree and it's not just here, but in real life too. They're usually those who brag about their "brutal honesty." More often than not, it's the brutality they relish and not the so-called honesty.

About the HSP diagnosis, this is the first I've heard of it so I'll have to read about it and educate myself on the topic. beanie, thanks for introducing the subject and kudos to you for your thoughtful management of this workplace situation.

[60sgirl]

uh, yes, I did.She said this person declared herself highly sensitive and recommended a book about it. Where in the opening post did she mention disruption until things air out?

[JuJu Squeezie]

On 2/17/2015 mochachino said:

There are all kinds of people in life, shy, quiet, blunt, assertive, many different types. Sometimes the exact opposites can have a good effect on each other, the blunt person bringing out something from the shy person and so on.

I really don't think classifying any personality traits as medical afflictions or protected classes is justified. And even if someone were highly sensitive, who makes the call to judge that? And why would it be considered a bad thing?

I agree, we all have a personality with certain traits, plus and minuses. "Affliction" is not the word. We all have what we have. We didn't buy it or ask for it but recognizing the ins and outs of your personality can help you navigate with others. It's learning to respect the differences and similarities we have with each other.

Why some want this to be so negative and dismissive? Another kind of personality maybe.

[foundinlv]

On 2/17/2015 mochachino said:

uh, yes, I did.She said this person declared herself highly sensitive and recommended a book about it. Where in the opening post did she mention disruption until things air out?

My mistake....it's a post by the OP not in the opening post. Read on please from the beginning and you will see it.

[foundinlv]

On 2/17/2015 JuJu Squeezie said:

On 2/17/2015 mochachino said:

There are all kinds of people in life, shy, quiet, blunt, assertive, many different types. Sometimes the exact opposites can have a good effect on each other, the blunt person bringing out something from the shy person and so on.

I really don't think classifying any personality traits as medical afflictions or protected classes is justified. And even if someone were highly sensitive, who makes the call to judge that? And why would it be considered a bad thing?

I agree, we all have a personality with certain traits, plus and minuses. "Affliction" is not the word. We all have what we have. We didn't buy it or ask for it but recognizing the ins and outs of your personality can help you navigate with others. It's learning to respect the differences and similarities we have with each other.

Why some want this to be so negative and dismissive? Another kind of personality maybe.

Most employers want to hire people that are a good fit, meaning they are compatible. But, these issues that crop up obviously are not divulged during the interview. I would think the highly sensitive person would certainly bring that to the interview, if it was really true; if it was really an issue for that person. Turning an office topsy turvy later down the road, needs to be addressed and on many levels.

[reese2]

On 2/17/2015 happy housewife said:

On 2/17/2015 reese2 said:

I've noticed on this BB that some people with no filter refer to themselves as no-nonsense, to the point and telling it like it is. Some of us have other names for it.

Oh yeah - the last thing we would want here is to be direct and honest. Some of us find the running all around a subject instead of just saying what you mean to be just as irritating. When people are direct and honest there is no misunderstanding - when they talk in puzzles all the time - no one ever gets their point, and they get mad because no one understands them.

With all due respect, you are funny right now. I've seen you go off on posters here who dare to post a different opinion from yours, while you make the most scathing posts to others. You can't have it both ways.

I always say exactly what I mean, I just don't have to denigrate or belittle someone else in order to make my point. There's a huge difference.

[Marp2]

On 2/17/2015 reese2 said:

I've noticed on this BB that some people with no filter refer to themselves as no-nonsense, to the point and telling it like it is. Some of us have other names for it.

I can appreciate being no-nonsense, to the point, telling it like it is when limited to the subject. However, I've only seen "brutally honest" comments directed to other posters not the subject at hand.

[JuJu Squeezie]

On 2/17/2015 Ilikeshade said:

On 2/17/2015 JuJu Squeezie said:

On 2/17/2015 mochachino said:

There are all kinds of people in life, shy, quiet, blunt, assertive, many different types. Sometimes the exact opposites can have a good effect on each other, the blunt person bringing out something from the shy person and so on.

I really don't think classifying any personality traits as medical afflictions or protected classes is justified. And even if someone were highly sensitive, who makes the call to judge that? And why would it be considered a bad thing?

I agree, we all have a personality with certain traits, plus and minuses. "Affliction" is not the word. We all have what we have. We didn't buy it or ask for it but recognizing the ins and outs of your personality can help you navigate with others. It's learning to respect the differences and similarities we have with each other.

Why some want this to be so negative and dismissive? Another kind of personality maybe.

Most employers want to hire people that are a good fit, meaning they are compatible. But, these issues that crop up obviously are not divulged during the interview. I would think the highly sensitive person would certainly bring that to the interview, if it was really true; if it was really an issue for that person. Turning an office topsy turvy later down the road, needs to be addressed and on many levels.

Hopefully as you mature you learn how to work with others sensitive or not. If you need to make a buck, you either learn skills or suffer with consequences. When I worked with people, for people, or was in charge of people I was always successful and maybe too soft hearted. I was once told a co-worker thought I was snobby, but she realized I was just slow to invest myself personally at first. We ended up being great friends.

[JuJu Squeezie]

On 2/17/2015 reese2 said:

On 2/17/2015 happy housewife said:

On 2/17/2015 reese2 said:

I've noticed on this BB that some people with no filter refer to themselves as no-nonsense, to the point and telling it like it is. Some of us have other names for it.

Oh yeah - the last thing we would want here is to be direct and honest. Some of us find the running all around a subject instead of just saying what you mean to be just as irritating. When people are direct and honest there is no misunderstanding - when they talk in puzzles all the time - no one ever gets their point, and they get mad because no one understands them.

With all due respect, you are funny right now. I've seen you go off on posters here who dare to post a different opinion from yours, while you make the most scathing posts to others. You can't have it both ways.

I always say exactly what I mean, I just don't have to denigrate or belittle someone else in order to make my point. There's a huge difference.

Patience is a virtue.

Hi reese!

[60sgirl]

On 2/17/2015 Ilikeshade said:

On 2/17/2015 JuJu Squeezie said:

On 2/17/2015 mochachino said:

There are all kinds of people in life, shy, quiet, blunt, assertive, many different types. Sometimes the exact opposites can have a good effect on each other, the blunt person bringing out something from the shy person and so on.

I really don't think classifying any personality traits as medical afflictions or protected classes is justified. And even if someone were highly sensitive, who makes the call to judge that? And why would it be considered a bad thing?

I agree, we all have a personality with certain traits, plus and minuses. "Affliction" is not the word. We all have what we have. We didn't buy it or ask for it but recognizing the ins and outs of your personality can help you navigate with others. It's learning to respect the differences and similarities we have with each other.

Why some want this to be so negative and dismissive? Another kind of personality maybe.

Most employers want to hire people that are a good fit, meaning they are compatible. But, these issues that crop up obviously are not divulged during the interview. I would think the highly sensitive person would certainly bring that to the interview, if it was really true; if it was really an issue for that person. Turning an office topsy turvy later down the road, needs to be addressed and on many levels.

how exactly would a highly sensitive person bring that to the interview? And to what end?

First off, I will say that most jobs today are applied for online. Even at the most mundane job paying minimum wage there is a "personality" test. Answering 50 questions all asking the same thing phrased differently so that some determines the best fit for a job is RIDICULOUS.

Many years ago I had the job of hiring an office receptionist. One by one girls came in with their resumes and talked about all their qualifications. At the end of the day an older woman came in, no resume, spent most of her life as a housewife but was now trying to help out at home with rising expenses. I liked her style, her motivation and considering the office environment and what type of vendors she would be greeting (it was a steel mill factory), I hired her.

The day after she started, the president of the company called me into his office and gave me a raise stating he heard good reports already from people calling on the phone and stopping into the office about this receptionist.

With computer generated nonsense, I would not have been able to get a feel for the people who applied for the job.

By the way, because of lack of experience coupled with a bit of a lack of self confidence, she did seem nervous and quiet, but she called me later that day and thanked me for recognizing that and helping put her at ease.