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[Marianne1]

what if the highly sensitive person is ""normal"" and the others are the ""problem"" people?

who decides what the norm is?

[PIT-HAG Melissa]

On 2/17/2015 Ilikeshade said:

On 2/17/2015 beanie said:

Before the mediation...I just thought she was moody. That was fine, until I felt so "shunned" and "invisible" to her. That brought about the mediation and things will improve now I am sure. We REALLY aired our feelings. I have to say this has caused me an enormous amount of anxiety as well..and sometimes very difficult to come to work.

Who told this woman that she was "a highly sensitive person?" I would think she would have to be diagnosed by a physician in that field before it could be used as a excuse for her bad behavior.

ITA!!

[foundinlv]

On 2/17/2015 JuJu Squeezie said:

On 2/17/2015 Ilikeshade said:

On 2/17/2015 JuJu Squeezie said:

On 2/17/2015 mochachino said:

There are all kinds of people in life, shy, quiet, blunt, assertive, many different types. Sometimes the exact opposites can have a good effect on each other, the blunt person bringing out something from the shy person and so on.

I really don't think classifying any personality traits as medical afflictions or protected classes is justified. And even if someone were highly sensitive, who makes the call to judge that? And why would it be considered a bad thing?

I agree, we all have a personality with certain traits, plus and minuses. "Affliction" is not the word. We all have what we have. We didn't buy it or ask for it but recognizing the ins and outs of your personality can help you navigate with others. It's learning to respect the differences and similarities we have with each other.

Why some want this to be so negative and dismissive? Another kind of personality maybe.

Most employers want to hire people that are a good fit, meaning they are compatible. But, these issues that crop up obviously are not divulged during the interview. I would think the highly sensitive person would certainly bring that to the interview, if it was really true; if it was really an issue for that person. Turning an office topsy turvy later down the road, needs to be addressed and on many levels.

Hopefully as you mature you learn how to work with others sensitive or not. If you need to make a buck, you either learn skills or suffer with consequences. When I worked with people, for people, or was in charge of people I was always successful and maybe too soft hearted. I was once told a co-worker thought I was snobby, but she realized I was just slow to invest myself personally at first. We ended up being great friends.

Yes! But beanie, the OP was not the person who caused this whole thing to be brought forward. It was the person claiming to be different therefore you better accommodate me.

[HisElk]

On 2/17/2015 reese2 said:

On 2/17/2015 happy housewife said:

On 2/17/2015 reese2 said:

I've noticed on this BB that some people with no filter refer to themselves as no-nonsense, to the point and telling it like it is. Some of us have other names for it.

Oh yeah - the last thing we would want here is to be direct and honest. Some of us find the running all around a subject instead of just saying what you mean to be just as irritating. When people are direct and honest there is no misunderstanding - when they talk in puzzles all the time - no one ever gets their point, and they get mad because no one understands them.

With all due respect, you are funny right now. I've seen you go off on posters here who dare to post a different opinion from yours, while you make the most scathing posts to others. You can't have it both ways.

I always say exactly what I mean, I just don't have to denigrate or belittle someone else in order to make my point. There's a huge difference.

Great post, reese2. You read my mind.

[Marmalade_1]

Some experts consider the HSP closely related to also having a BPD (borderline personality disorder). I agree and have no sympathy for them at all.

[JuJu Squeezie]

On 2/17/2015 Ilikeshade said:

On 2/17/2015 JuJu Squeezie said:

On 2/17/2015 mochachino said:

There are all kinds of people in life, shy, quiet, blunt, assertive, many different types. Sometimes the exact opposites can have a good effect on each other, the blunt person bringing out something from the shy person and so on.

I really don't think classifying any personality traits as medical afflictions or protected classes is justified. And even if someone were highly sensitive, who makes the call to judge that? And why would it be considered a bad thing?

I agree, we all have a personality with certain traits, plus and minuses. "Affliction" is not the word. We all have what we have. We didn't buy it or ask for it but recognizing the ins and outs of your personality can help you navigate with others. It's learning to respect the differences and similarities we have with each other.

Why some want this to be so negative and dismissive? Another kind of personality maybe.

Most employers want to hire people that are a good fit, meaning they are compatible. But, these issues that crop up obviously are not divulged during the interview. I would think the highly sensitive person would certainly bring that to the interview, if it was really true; if it was really an issue for that person. Turning an office topsy turvy later down the road, needs to be addressed and on many levels.

You're looking at this in a negative light. The OP's story is an isolated incident, you can't paint everyone from this one interaction.

[JuJu Squeezie]

On 2/17/2015 Marmalade said:

Some experts consider the HSP closely related to also having a BPD (borderline personality disorder). I agree and have no sympathy for them at all.

Doctor Phil?

[foundinlv]

On 2/17/2015 Complicated said:

what if the highly sensitive person is "normal" and the others are the "problem" people?

who decides what the norm is?

As the OP beannie described it, the other woman once had the office all to herself. When that changed, so did she.

[Marianne1]

On 2/17/2015 Ilikeshade said:

On 2/17/2015 Complicated said:

what if the highly sensitive person is "normal" and the others are the "problem" people?

who decides what the norm is?

As the OP beannie described it, the other woman once had the office all to herself. When that changed, so did she.

that does not answer my question, but thanks.

[foundinlv]

On 2/17/2015 JuJu Squeezie said:

On 2/17/2015 Ilikeshade said:

On 2/17/2015 JuJu Squeezie said:

On 2/17/2015 mochachino said:

There are all kinds of people in life, shy, quiet, blunt, assertive, many different types. Sometimes the exact opposites can have a good effect on each other, the blunt person bringing out something from the shy person and so on.

I really don't think classifying any personality traits as medical afflictions or protected classes is justified. And even if someone were highly sensitive, who makes the call to judge that? And why would it be considered a bad thing?

I agree, we all have a personality with certain traits, plus and minuses. "Affliction" is not the word. We all have what we have. We didn't buy it or ask for it but recognizing the ins and outs of your personality can help you navigate with others. It's learning to respect the differences and similarities we have with each other.

Why some want this to be so negative and dismissive? Another kind of personality maybe.

Most employers want to hire people that are a good fit, meaning they are compatible. But, these issues that crop up obviously are not divulged during the interview. I would think the highly sensitive person would certainly bring that to the interview, if it was really true; if it was really an issue for that person. Turning an office topsy turvy later down the road, needs to be addressed and on many levels.

You're looking at this in a negative light. The OP's story is an isolated incident, you can't paint everyone from this one interaction.

I'm only talking about THIS incident. PLEASE!!!