Help With Facebook Behavior, please.

ECBG · ‎01-08-2011

To all of you who helped me several weeks ago about joining FB, another thank you.

As it happens, I was having some issues with several pages who apparently had a max amount of the times you could read them, then they covered up again. I joined and have been able to turn off notices of friend's posts and put a few pictures on. I have emailed my friends and told them this is mainly for finding web pages to check job openings.

My question is on behavior.

Why do people want to friend you when you only casually chatted and never exchanged phone numbers or anything?

Thanks for your discussion!

Mothertrucker · ‎01-30-2015

well, maybe because Facebook is all ABOUT just casually chatting...I think you hit the nail on the head..

Marybella · ‎03-09-2010

I'm not really sure what each person's motivation is for "friending" other people who are acquaintances. Some are genuinely friendly and others want to promote something. I pick and choose who I accept as a friend and I also am judicious in who I ask to be a friend.

RainyDayGal · ‎03-09-2010

Some do it to increase the number of "friends". For some it's all about getting that number up, it's competing in a way. Others think they may have something in common with you.

If you don't want to be friends just ignore their friend request. I have people that I knew in high school that have tried to friend me. They aren't in my life, and I have nothing in common with them, so I just ignore them and delete the request. They'll never know.

ChynnaBlue · ‎05-22-2012

Depends on the people. I'm in a lot of activist groups and we use it to connect to each other and better organize.

I get a lot of friend requests from people who are friends of friends or saw something I posted on someone else's page and reached out because like seeks like (Like as in sameness, not as in the 'like' button.")

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RainyDayGal · ‎03-09-2010

@ChynnaBlue wrote:

I get a lot of friend requests from people who are friends of friends or saw something I posted on someone else's page and reached out because like seeks like (Like as in sameness, not as in the 'like' button.")

I get those also. I don't usually friend them because I don't know them. Now, my husband, he'll friend anyone and everyone. He's has friends from lots of different countries. I'm more selective. It has to be a cause I really care about before I friend someone I don't know.

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

I believe you are much better off if you only "friend" your actual friends and family. I get many requests from people I have apparently known in the past, probably at work, but I don't remember them anymore, and from people who were my classmates in high school and I actually never knew them(1000+ kids in my HS graduating class). Also people who knew one of my brothers, but not me. I do not friend any of those people.My friend list is only people I want to keep in touch with who are far away. I have a huge family and I don't want to be in daily touch with most of them either.

Q4u · ‎03-17-2010

I believe it's as said.... to increase the overall "friends" on your page to make you look extremely successful (especially if your page is geared toward promoting your business and of course to just generally look really, really popular).....

Here's my Facebook story.....

I really don't like facebook and I am a computer-real-time-nut..... but I just don't like it, I don't like the premise, the "friending", the layout, how much time is devoted to it...etc. etc. BUT, since we moved out to the country, the development we live in has a Facebook page that doles out information regarding our community that I want to know about, including meetings, when, where, etc. So I signed up just so I could do that and it's been good.... I don't have anything on my page, a picture of my dog, a couple of pretty photos but no personal info.

One day I decided to play around for a couple of hours seeing if I could look up old friends and I found it very interesting. I looked up one lady and her two daughters that were like family to me and my family that I haven't had contact with for over 35 years.... and there was the oldest daughter and her Mother in a photo! I would have recognized them ANYWHERE!! I waited about a month debating if I should contact her.... and I finally did!!

It was a joyous reunion (the oldest daughter had been looking for me for years!) which would never have occured without Facebook! Her Mom is now in her early 90's and is struggling with Alzheimers and her oldest daughter is now 70, and through them I have found the younger daughter as well. As well as their children. I've made FaceTIME contact with the oldest daughter and her Mother a couple of times now and I'm thanking God I was able to before her Mother loses all memory of me (and my Parents, both of whom are gone now).....

I still don't enjoy Facebook but am grateful it was there! We never would have touched base or seen each other again and that would have been sad. It's marvelous this has happened.... but my friend spends a ton of time on Facebook updating, loading pictures and videos, messaging, etc. and I really don't want to do that.... but for what it is, for what I'm willing to do, it has been a form of a miracle.....

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MaggieMack · ‎10-01-2014

I have a FB account, but have never posted one update. It is for my use only. I have gotten friend requests from old boyfriends, just no! If I wanted to be your friend on FB, you would already be my friend in real life!

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ChynnaBlue · ‎05-22-2012

@RedConvertibleGirl wrote:
@ChynnaBlue wrote:

I get a lot of friend requests from people who are friends of friends or saw something I posted on someone else's page and reached out because like seeks like (Like as in sameness, not as in the 'like' button.")

I get those also. I don't usually friend them because I don't know them. Now, my husband, he'll friend anyone and everyone. He's has friends from lots of different countries. I'm more selective. It has to be a cause I really care about before I friend someone I don't know.

I will accept the request if they share multiple friends with me and if I see what they've posted to their own page.

I'm cautious with my personal info, so they don't get my phone number and only handful of people I know well know where I live.

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