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[Group 5 minus 1]

Reading the OPs posting,I think there is no solution. It has gone on for a long time. The OP is not a person that can just say NO. I think she just has to put upw/ it. 

[AuntMame]

Are there a few dishes he makes that are adequate? Ask him to focus on those. Say "I really love your XYZ couscous, could you prepare that for dinner one night?" Or "Your strawberry waffle frou-frou is a favorite of mine. Would it be asking to much for you to make that?"

It's only once every couple years, tolerating it doesn't seem a big price for friendship. 

[Biftu]

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@Tinkrbl44 wrote:

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@Biftu wrote:

We have friends from out of state that visit every couple of years and usually stay a night or two. They live three hours away.  Every time they come the husband insists on doing the cooking.  He prepares the food at home and brings the food and heats in up when they get here and continues to make rice or some other dish here.  I have to get involved pulling out pots and pans, etc., then do the clean up.  Cooking is his new passion since he retired.  The problem is his food is not good -- at all.  I dread eating it.

This year we tried to talk him into going out for dinner instead of him cooking.  He said "no, you are taking away my fun. I want to bring the food it's not a problem."  He could not be persuaded.  We'll go with it not to hurt his feelings.  It's nice to have someone cook for you, but...  

It's not like this happens often so guess I shouldn't be annoyed.  How would you feel?

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@Biftu 

Sorry if I missed a comment up above, but what does HIS WIFE think about all this? 

Does she like his food, or is she also just pretending?  

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@Tinkrbl44   I didn't speak to his wife so I have no idea her stand on this.  I would hope that if she doesn't like his cooking she would discourage him.  Guess she is going along with this.

[Iwantcoffee]

In our family the kitchen is a family space. My Sister-in-law cooked and was welcomed to use the kitchen when she stayed with us. If a friend visits and want to bring food and cook that is not a problem for me. 

[Carmie]

Just having my stove act up on Easter gave me an idea.  Make sure your stove doesn't work.  If electric, pull the plug out or turn it off at the breaker.

If gas, shut it off.  Do it right before they arrive.  He can put

his food in the refrigerator and then take it home with him.

Tell him the repair man was already there and will need to order a new part and it should be coming in a few days...after he has gone back home.

Yes, it will be a pain because you will not be able to cook any meal at all while they are there.  Just make sure your coffee maker works and go out for all your meals.

[CalminHeart]

Let him cook. It saves you the hassle of cooking, money, and gas. I'd love to have someone cook for me.

And it may be their way of offsetting costs of visitors. 

[Carmie]

@CalminHeart   It causes a hassle when you gag on the food and then have to do the clean up.

I know if my husband didn't like something, he would refuse to eat it.

If he was a good cook, it would be okay, but the op said his cooking is not so wonderful.

[candys mine]

Honestly?  Pots and pans are in this capinet.  Sink is over there.

If YOU cook,YOU clean up and it's So Sweet of you to give me an evening off!

I have to admit if I'm given access to someone elses kitchen,  I 'd never think of NOT doing the dishes.

[Group 5 minus 1]

Sorry,folks none of these things will work. It has gone on for too long and I think she is being played. 

[SouthernBee]

@Biftu : I am very picky about my food and have stomach issues.I would have a problem about food safety with someone traveling 3 hours with food. My house , my kitchen , my rules.

Have a sign made and posted in your kitchen: Biftu kitchen and kitchen closed.