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[Tinkrbl44]

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@Scooby Doo wrote:

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@Tinkrbl44 wrote:

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@Biftu wrote:

We have friends from out of state that visit every couple of years and usually stay a night or two. They live three hours away.  Every time they come the husband insists on doing the cooking.  He prepares the food at home and brings the food and heats in up when they get here and continues to make rice or some other dish here.  I have to get involved pulling out pots and pans, etc., then do the clean up.  Cooking is his new passion since he retired.  The problem is his food is not good -- at all.  I dread eating it.

This year we tried to talk him into going out for dinner instead of him cooking.  He said "no, you are taking away my fun. I want to bring the food it's not a problem."  He could not be persuaded.  We'll go with it not to hurt his feelings.  It's nice to have someone cook for you, but...  

It's not like this happens often so guess I shouldn't be annoyed.  How would you feel?

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@Biftu 

I'll be blunt here .... 

Taking away his fun?   I thought VISITING FRIENDS was the whole point of the visit, not force feeding you awful food and then leaving a mess in your kitchen!   

Huh?  What normal person does that?  

I understand you don't want to "hurt his feelings", but the first time he brings cooked food that has accidentally spoiled and you're all taking turns running for the bathroom, perhaps you'll finally reconsider this silly ritual.  

Seems to me that you're being held hostage and forced to eat icky food .... and you just can't be honest, so it continues.  

The only person I blame here is you.

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A bit harsh. My friends don't try to poison me but then I seem to be likeable.

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@Scooby Doo 

The OP made it clear they don't like his cooking and don't like this situation.  I think she should stand up for herself. 

I was blunt, but I don't think it was "harsh".   If you post on message boards asking others for their opinions, you may not get a lot of people telling you only what you want to hear.  Many will disagree.   

IMO, don't ask others for their point of view if you have trouble handling occasional criticisms.