Guests Cooking in Your House - Page 3

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@IMW wrote:
I'd get annoyed too. It certainly is not for your convenience or advantage.
Sounds like you have to let it or the friendship go.

@IMW But if he has to call the shots at your house, is that a friendship? Not by my definition it wouldn't be.

AZfem · ‎04-13-2016

@Biftu Can you speak to his partner before they come & tell them not to bring food. Say there's a new restraunt you want to try or your favorite place has a special you love tonight. If he insists on cooking, let him, but say we had plans to go to our favorite place tonight. You can eat here but please clean up after yourself. Then you go out. Its rude but he's rude & needs to be put in his place

Doesn't the partner know how bad the food is? I would come right out & tell partner or him that his cooking is not your type of food & you will be going out with or without them.

If he says your ruining my fun tell him he's ruining your fun of going out to eat which you've been looking forward to.

Don't let this guy bully you in your own home. Do your own thing & let him do his. Do not lift a finger to get pots out.

IMW · ‎06-15-2014

@Sooner agreed

Biftu · ‎02-05-2011

Thanks everybody for your thoughts on this situation. Some of you gals are tough! Yes I'm annoyed and did my best to persuade him even sending him restaurant options, and emphasized how we would rather go out or order in. Personally I think it is just weird. Never heard of anybody doing this. I'm kind of surprised his wife thinks this is ok and even may like his new cooking passion since she no longer has to cook! I am a people pleaser which doesn't always work to my advantage so I'll just go along with it this visit, but never again. Other than this new cooking thing they are a nice couple and we will enjoy our time together, other than the meal!

I'll look forward to whatever desert I make.

781Florist · ‎10-16-2021

If someone is a really good friend then it wouldn't be difficult for me to communicate my feelings to them about anything.

If someone isn't really that good a friend, then it wouldn't be difficult for me to communicate my feelings to them about anything.

If you have found that saying you would rather eat out is falling on deaf ears and you are not comfortable with being blunt.....then put restrictions on what you will and won't eat.

Say "no seafood, or middle eastern spices, or no meat, etc.etc.etc....."

Once all the limitations take the fun out of the hobby he wants to inflict on everyone (whether or not they like it!)

he may feel that the joy of cooking is just the name of a cookbook!

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@Biftu wrote:
We have friends from out of state that visit every couple of years and usually stay a night or two. They live three hours away. Every time they come the husband insists on doing the cooking. He prepares the food at home and brings the food and heats in up when they get here and continues to make rice or some other dish here. I have to get involved pulling out pots and pans, etc., then do the clean up. Cooking is his new passion since he retired. The problem is his food is not good -- at all. I dread eating it.

This year we tried to talk him into going out for dinner instead of him cooking. He said "no, you are taking away my fun. I want to bring the food it's not a problem." He could not be persuaded. We'll go with it not to hurt his feelings. It's nice to have someone cook for you, but...

It's not like this happens often so guess I shouldn't be annoyed. How would you feel?

@Biftu

Sorry if I missed a comment up above, but what does HIS WIFE think about all this?

Does she like his food, or is she also just pretending?

elated · ‎06-09-2010

This man wouldn't be a friend of mine. The wife may be nice but it doesn't account for her husband's lack of respect for your home. Does he do this to all his friends? I wouldn't go along to get along. This is not my idea of a friendship.. I think when you are in someone's home, you need to honor their rules..Why can't you be honest?

I would just say, if you want to visit, I would enjoy your company but no cooking. So, it is up to you to make a decision. Friend or Acquaintance??

Travone · ‎10-14-2016

@kaydee50 wrote:
If it's only every couple of years!!! and you like the people, I would grin and bear it. Maybe he has improved!!!

I agree with @kaydee50. It is one or two times every couple of years. These are good friends. Cooking for you is his love language. He is showing his appreciation for your friendship and hospitality. I think you can put up with 2 days of bad food in a 730 day period for a good friend.

Lilysmom1 · ‎11-08-2020

@Jo1313 This is a good idea. Divert his 'skills' to dessert! Put your foot down in a nice way and say 'Our turn this time. We have a special recipe we want to share. If you want to bring something, bring dessert."

Imaoldhippie · ‎06-10-2015

@Biftu ...............If they are really good friends I would grin and bear it with bourbon and cokes to the point where I was relaxed and I would hand the Mrs a the dish cloth and tell her she washes while you dry and put away.

Good luck to you. Then again with enough liquid courage I might just be direct and tell him sorry but my kitchen is off limits and always has been, so we are are going out to eat period!

Hope this gives you a little chuckle.

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