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[bonnielu]

Post lost. Let me try again. I gave up long ago. Never can figure out what THEY will actually like or even use so I buy gift cards instead. I tried to use the A company for example and I believe my post was blocked.

[haddon9]

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@homedecor1wrote:

I feel her pain if she doesn't have room in freezer. I know every year we get gifted a box from Omaha Steaks full of steaks, burgers, potatoes, etc. first off it's not good and secondly although I'm not appreciative we don't eat the things sent. Well, we do like the apple tarts😉.

I can buy better quality meats at the food store. Last year they gifted us beef wellington with 3 side dishes -- they were mushy and terrible.

I have asked the gifting person to not order this year although we appreciate the thought.

Sometimes being honest is the best policy!

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@homedecor1Sorry to hear you didn't like the Omaha steaks. I ordered a package of steaks, burgers and a few other things which I can't remember for my brother. I also added the apple tarts which looked good. I hope he likes it.

[MikeMad]

For me personally, it would be cash or gift card for the rest of her life. Youre gift was thoughtful tho.

[homedecor1]

@haddon9

the apple tarts are delicious!! Our box included hamburgers, hot dogs, twice baked potatoes and I think strip steaks and those yummy apple tarts.

[Starpolisher]

Next time? Huh! That would be the end of my ever getting her a gift! If hubs wants her to have a gift, let him get it. People need to understand that a gift is just that...a gift! You don't owe it to them. They should be gracious and thankful that you thought of them and took your time and money to get them something. 'Cause guess what. There is no Santa Claus! This is why my daughter in law always says she hit the jackpot when she got me( her friends too) I try to be the MIL I wish I had, not the one i did have!

[Shawnie]

Gifting is so difficult once you reach a little long in the tooth.  For the children i do gift cards.  Adults are hard to figure out for me.  I am sure i have had some duds.  Silence tells me don't do that one again, LOL.  BTW OP I do not have room to store all that food in my freezer etc either.  But as long as she shared the gift think of the gifting as joy delivered to others!!  Every year a friend shares gifts that she receives, very fun, and she loves to share.  Sometimes it's ham, big desserts or Starbucks gift cards.  I receive Pineapple from Hawaii and share that!  

[matty liz]

Don't care what the reason for her behavior, she was wrong.  In my case it is my DIL,  I can't give her anything thatis worthy to her and I love her.

[haddon9]

@homedecor1 Thanks!  Good to know!  I hope the steaks & burgers are good too....I don't think there were potatoes in my gift box and will look it up to see what is included.

[JoyFilled Warrior]

I've noticed that "gratitude," & esp "graciousness" seem to be a "lost art." 

   (esp, for the most part,  in my family, always was, esp with other family members, for some reason.  I don't know abt other families)

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For instance, when was the last time you received a "Thank You," note, or any note, from anyone?  Small pkgs of 5-10 these "Thank you" cards are sold almost always where Greeting cards are found & sold, at the card aisle end, (even at Dollar Tree).  Sometimes, even a pkg of "note cards" that are blank  are sold, same spot, so can be used universally, for any reason.

   Some times, I just drop one of these Blank Note Cards, writing "thinking of you.  How ya doing?"

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I like to try to send them, esp "Thank you.". 

Ppl seem to be surprised, shocked, even speechless to awkward, even just to receive a "Thank You" note. 

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Maybe I should stop sending them??

It just feels like a "you owe it to me," when gifting someone, when it's not  accompanied by a "Thank you." (incl note card)

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Call me "old fashioned."  heh 

But, "Gratitude" feels so good.

[nascarfan]

I would contact your MIL after the holidays and suggest to her that you eliminate exchanging gifts. Apologize for the Christmas gift you sent that caused her such distress and that in the future you will donate to a charity of "your" choosing on her behalf. AND never feel bad if a gift you give someone is not well received.  That's the recipients problem.