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I think it was a thoughtful and generous gift, however, with my limited freezer space, receiving such bounty would send me into a tailspin. I'd need a lot of advanced notice so I could eat what's in my freezer now to make room for it. Maybe she called your bil trying to "borrow" some freezer space.

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I'm sure she likes and appreciated your gift; she just doesn't know what to do with so much.

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@Othereeeenwrote:

@Cakers3

Agree with your comment about it not being about being able to fit in the fridge.

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When someone gives you a gift, even if you hate it and know you'll never use it, or you'll throw it out right after the giver leaves, you don't act like a petulant child (unless you are one...here it appears the person is 80 and should know better by now).

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Manners. Another bygone art.


@OthereeeenYou do not know if the MIL acted like a petulant child (another overused phrase around here). Your post is just a repeat, again, about "manners".

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If the MIL is 80 years old, certainly by now everyone knows how she rolls.

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As I said, I am not going to dump on the MIL; once I started reading how the BIL bought this and bought that-so what. It's none of anyone else's business. If he can afford to help his mother out, more power to him.

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Again, there is an underlying resentment about this woman; at 80 years old certainly there has to be at least 50 years or so of experience dealing with her.

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You can pick on her manners all you want; there is always another issue with family dynamics.

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Personally? If somebody didn't like my gift I would simply offer to return/exchange it.

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It isn't the end of the world.

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@ScrapHappySometimes no good deed goes unpunished!

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@beckyb1012I love that episode! Marie; "There's too much fruit in this house!". Cracks me up! 😁

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You gave with good intentions. Your MIL is lucky to have a full freezer but everyone isn’t so lucky. As long as it was sealed, I’d call a local food pantry or church & im sure someone would love to have the meat; it would be a luxury for them. If I received the gift and had no room in my freezer, I would call and thank you, explain, politely, the circumstances and let you know the gift went to persons in need. I’m sure you would feel good about that.
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You tried to do a nice thing, so don't let it get you down. Sometimes you're just "darned if do and darned if you don't".

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@homedecor1I agree with you that the food from Omaha Steaks is not that good. One year, my brother bought that

package for us. We had to try to fit all those packages in our

refrigerator freezer.

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My brother is very sweet and generous. I thanked him for his gift. When he later asked if we liked the food, I had to be honest.

I did not want him to send that package again, thinking that we loved it.

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I told him that we appreciated the gift, but the beef has an odd taste. It is not like the beef that we buy on the east coast.

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I didn't tell him that we don't eat frozen prepared foods. We did end up throwing some of that food away. I didn't tell him that. I hate that his money was wasted.

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My five children were not fed frozen prepared foods, when they were growing up and one is a vegan. I didn't ask if they would want the food. We did cook some of the things, but didn't care for it.

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It was a nice gift and not appreciated by someone with no manners! Anyone that would say this doesn't deserve consideration in the future, where gifts are concerned.

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It sounds like you were being very generous with the gift. If she doesn't like it, rather than giving some of it away, just offer to take it back and ask her to help you with a suggestion of something more to her liking.
I am sure is she were vegan or had some other food issues, you would have known about it and never sent it to her. I think it was thoughtful.

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@Enufstuff

I certainly appreciated the person thinking of us but you're right the meat is certainly not quality, IMO.

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I was only stating I told her we did not have a good experience with Omaha -- she totally understood. We decided not to do a gift exchange at this stage in our lives so we now get together for lunch when possible.

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One time I sent the honeybells from QVC that were supposed to be great she called me and told me they were hard & not juicy at all.

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At the cost of these food purchases I think it's nice we can be honest with each other🙂