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[fthunt]

@Kachina624 

As I recall you have similar with 2 grandsons who never acknowledge your gifting.

What  did you decide to do this season - quit or continue?

[Janey2]

@chlema  Yes very sad and rude. What if you are not on facebook? I guess you don't get a thank you. 

[AuntG]

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@fthunt wrote:

@Kachina624 

As I recall you have similar with 2 grandsons who never acknowledge your gifting.

What  did you decide to do this season - quit or continue?

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@fthunt maybe @Kachina624 is doing what I do - giving gifts with no expectations. I give monetary gifts to my family because I know they are decent people and good parents. I just think they figure you don't have to thank family. I strongly disagree with that logic, but I'm not writing them off over a thank you note. In fact, when I'd ask for a gift list, I couldn't get that either. 

[RedTop]

I have decided common sense, etiquette and manners have long gone by the wayside, in young and old alike. 

I have rolled my eyes, bit my tongue, and shaken my head so much over ingratitude, I'm surprised I don't have injuries that require a specialist.   Am also surprised I don't have high blood pressure from being so aggravated over everyone's insensitivity.

My personal decision is to continue doing what I feel is right, so that I know in my heart I did my best, and let the rest go.   

[Enufstuff]

@jellyBEAN @AuntG @Kachina624 @occasionalrain@Carmie

   I no longer send gift cards in the mail. I have heard that postal workers notice colored envelopes, like for holidays and birthdays. They check if gift cards or cash are inside and the recipient never gets it. The last time I sent a gift card, I put the

greeting card in a manila envelope and sent it. It was received.

   As for this generation that does not acknowledge gifts, it just

showcases their rudeness, ignorance, lack of manners and lack of

appreciation. They have a sense of entitlement. Remember, these are the ones who got sports trophies just for showing up and breathing. To boost their "self esteem" they were raised to believe that the world revolved about them.

   I have given wedding gifts that have gone unacknowledged and I have sent checks to grandchildren who do not even acknowledge that they received them, never mind showing any

appreciation or thanks. I no longer send those checks. Now that I'm retired, I need the cash more than they do. It is sad, because their parents were raised to show gratitude.

[Kachina624]

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@AuntG wrote:

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@fthunt wrote:

@Kachina624 

As I recall you have similar with 2 grandsons who never acknowledge your gifting.

What  did you decide to do this season - quit or continue?

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@fthunt maybe @Kachina624 is doing what I do - giving gifts with no expectations. I give monetary gifts to my family because I know they are decent people and good parents. I just think they figure you don't have to thank family. I strongly disagree with that logic, but I'm not writing them off over a thank you note. In fact, when I'd ask for a gift list, I couldn't get that either. 

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@fthunt @AuntG   You have an amazing memory.  I used to give generously to my grandsons at Christmas because I knew their single mom could provide little for them.  They are now adults with jobs, don't acknowledge gifts and I never hear from them.  I doubt I'd recognize them if I saw them. I  decided  to forego gift cards this year.  I wonder if they'll notice?

[fthunt]

@Kachina624 I admit I do have a rather good memory; but it wasn't too long ago you posted about your 2 grandsons - and gifting.

I was going to suggest donating $$ to an animal shelter in their name.

Knowing how you love dogs - you'd be helping animals and get away from the gifting routine..

Merry Christmas to you and the pups

[Kachina624]

@fthunt   That's A good idea for some of the unappreciative types.  I can just see their faces when they learn a gift card is not forthcoming but dogs and cats will get a donation.  These boys like animals so maybe they wouldn't mind.

Merry Christmas to you too!