Forgivness - Page 7

JuJu Squeezie · ‎08-16-2013

On 11/20/2014 Cranberries said:
On 11/20/2014 colliegirls said:
Getting off the subject before, just remembered this discussion was about relatives and forgiving. The problem with that is that many family issues go on and on and most people never change so the same problem comes up every time there is a gathering. When this is the problem, its not about forgiving, its about not being part of the damaging equation and removing oneself.

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I can relate to this exactly.

Me too, fool me once, twice, repeatedly...I don't want you in my Thanksgiving ever.

Marianne1 · ‎04-16-2013

Just because you do not do the "forgive" thing does not mean you are wallowing it it, holding on to it like "gold" or that it ruins your life and creates a dysfunctional family.

Holy cow.

Those ARE judgmental statements, and each one of them was made by the OP in this thread.

Don't make others conform to what you think we should be, I promise you, I am NOT wallowing, holding, ruined or dysfunctional.

Ok, maybe I might be dysfunctional-- but just because I am not perfect, not because of some past "thing" done (to me) in my life.

Cranberries · ‎03-09-2010

We're probably all dysfunctional in one way or another. Even the OP.

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

On 11/20/2014 YorkieonmyPillow said:
Who is the OP judging?

She stated that it is better to forgive than to live in bitterness and anger. She didn't call any particular person out.

You confuse them when you use reason and common sense.

LilacTree · ‎03-25-2012

If the individual you can't forgive is still torturing someone you love with no end in sight, there is no forgiving, and certainly no forgetting. There is only increasing acrimony and loathing.

Formerly Ford1224
We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Elie Wiesel 1986

HisElk · ‎09-30-2012

On 11/20/2014 happy housewife said:
On 11/20/2014 YorkieonmyPillow said:
Who is the OP judging?

She stated that it is better to forgive than to live in bitterness and anger. She didn't call any particular person out.

You confuse them when you use reason and common sense.

Why am I not surprised at this post. SMH

Mj12 · ‎03-09-2010

On 11/20/2014 happy housewife said:
On 11/20/2014 YorkieonmyPillow said:
Who is the OP judging?

She stated that it is better to forgive than to live in bitterness and anger. She didn't call any particular person out.

You confuse them when you use reason and common sense.

Marianne1 · ‎04-16-2013

Another thing, since I am on a roll...

Comparing one person's tragedy or horror is futile.

Everyone has personal trials, tribulations, and joys. They are not comparable, nor should we attempt to.

JuJu Squeezie · ‎08-16-2013

On 11/20/2014 happy housewife said:
On 11/20/2014 YorkieonmyPillow said:
Who is the OP judging?

She stated that it is better to forgive than to live in bitterness and anger. She didn't call any particular person out.

You confuse them when you use reason and common sense.

Mrs. Kitteridge I presume.

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

I know a woman who is 89 years old - she suffers terribly from depression and mental illness and all - and I mean ALL she talks about is how difficult her life was growing up during the depression etc. How the depression and the war ruined her childhood and early adult life etc etc etc. Almost everyone - including her own children stopped listening many years ago and she just can not let go of that hate and the woe is me attitude 24/7/365 for all these years. She has made herself into a lonely old woman who no one wants to spend any time with. This is not just since she has been elderly - I have known her for 31 years as she is a family member of my DH, and she has been like this for the whole 31 years. Her husband has passed on now - when he was alive he drank - a lot - I would have too.