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@Irmasdc 

So sorry it didn't turn out better .... but at least you did find out a little information.   

We just never know how those things will turn out, but a few questions were answered.  I hope you feel better for having solved some of the mystery.  

[EastCoastGal]

@LavernLuvsShoes .... I'm so very happy for you that you found your Mother who abandoned you 33 years ago and it worked out great! ❤️ I'm sure she was as happy to finally meet you as you were to meet your Mom !! I think that's so wonderful !!! I have tears in my eyes because l don't always hear happy endings. Enjoy your time with her as I'm sure you will !! I also hope you find family on your Father's side! I have a feeling you will... I mean, who wouldn't want another sibling or cousin?!?! Good luck to you Sweetheart ❤️

[chrystaltree]

@shoesnbags wrote:

@chrystaltree wrote:

This is one of the reasons why I have not and never will get involved with one of those genealogy sites. Several of us have shared with our relatives on both side that we are not interested in anything you find or don't find. In this case the aunt is dead but if she was alive. Would her decision to place the child for adoption be disrespected, thrown in her face? Would her privacy mean nothing? I have a friend in similar circumstances who is hounded and harassed by the child she gave up for adoption. She thought she was doing the right thing for everyone with adoption. It was a private adoption and all parties agreed it would remain confidential. The adopting parents vehemently insisted on that. My friend was 19 and just wanted her life back. But promises were broken by the parents and the minister who put them all together. He gave out her contact information and she finds herself hounded and harassed by the young woman who wants a relationship with her. She won't accept that my friend doesn't want a relationship with her. Is only her mother biologically. My friend had to tell her young sons before they were ready. She met the girl twice twice but that probably did more harm than good because it gave the young woman....she's about 30 now....hope. So, I do have sympathy for people (almost always women) who have their lives blown apart by such sites. You are right, there are no secrets now.  

But @chrystaltree , this example has nothing to do with a geneaology site. You said that the minister spilled the beans!

Then call the Board Police have me arrested.....lol

[Spurt]

My sister did the ancestry thing......a few surprises.....the Italian strain not as dominant as we thought,but my dads Russian side---Wow..BUT much more interesting was the family stories that we actually shared by our great aunts visiting from out of state, they also dispelled some rumors too.

@AuntG 

....some tales would make interesting Lifetime Channel movies. ☺️🫢🫣🤫😯

[Spurt]

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@Laura14 wrote:

I warned my mother before I did 23and Me. I told her to spill any secrets now or I would see her on Judge Judy for damages. I got back a text of Darth Vadar claiming he was my father.

The only interesting thing that came up is supposedly I have a Irish cousin that my great grandfather fathered. Not possible since we are all Italian. Either he had a great time on St. Patrick's Day, which was not done back in the day especially by Italians, or the geneology isn't as precise as it could be.

I know they have a cousin I do know listed as my first cousin because we share so much DNA. We are actually second. It's a work in progress. Think what they'll accomplish after all of us are gone. I'm sure they'll be reconstructing exactly what we looked like for any future relatives to come along with a link to all of our archived social media posts.   

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@Laura14 

Hey Paesano 🇮🇹

[Laura14]

@Spurt Hey, yo! You bringin the meatballs on Sunday night? 

[Spurt]

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@Laura14 wrote:

@Spurt Hey, yo! You bringin the meatballs on Sunday night? 

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@Laura14 

You bet...😉😁🍝

@Laura14 

 BTW my grandfather ALWAYS cooked pasta on Sunday 

[Laura14]

@Spurt If you didn't do Sunday nights at Nonno and Nonna's house, you're not Italian!

[Spurt]

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@Laura14 wrote:

@Spurt If you didn't do Sunday nights at Nonno and Nonna's house, you're not Italian!

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@Laura14 

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[LavernLuvsShoes]

@EastCoastGal - Thank you so much for your kind words ♥

To make a long story short: Yes, it was a joyful "reunion" and I discovered that I had 3 younger sisters (different father, of course).

Although Mom passed in 2014, my sisters and I have continued to stay in touch, and we Zoom Chat quite frequently.

The only information Mom was willing to give me was my father's name and where he was born (NC) - That's very little to go on, which is why I did the DNA test - Hoping to connect with someone from his side.

I was the product of a one-night fling, and (according to Mom), he never knew I existed - And - I heard thru the grapevine that he may have also been married, so there's that.

Anyway, I appreciate your compassion and support, and wish you well in all that you do also.