@151949 wrote:
@Mrsq2022 wrote:
@151949 wrote:
@VanSleepy wrote:
@151949 wrote:
@NYC Susan
I said earlier that I felt the OP's invitation wa a gift grab and should be treated as such. Then the nasty remarks like Sunshine 45's started from there. Apparently you missed some posts. Some one can't miss an opportunity for a mean personal, as hurtful as possible attack to go by. You know how it is here.
I don't think Sunshine meant it in a nasty way. I almost posted the same thing and didn't mean it in a nasty way. It's just that with all the talk of "gift grabs", some may have perceived your announcement as such even though it was not your intention.
How could it possibly NOT be nasty to tell someone that when she sent out her wedding announcements it was a gift grab? Is that something YOU would normally say to a person?
@151949I see absolutely nothing tacky or "gift grabby" about wedding announcements. Period. We send out birth announcements, we send out graduation announcements, and we send wedding announcements. Is it less tacky to just post your wedding announcement 5to the world on Facebook or Instagram? Send everyone in your contacts folder an email? I think formal, mailed wedding announcements are the proper way to tell distant relatives and family friends that you were married. How else are they supposed to know???
Thanks for the support. It was the typical QVC board mean girls pile on and I should know better than to argue with them - they will fight just for the sake of fighting! Since I was married 33 years ago it was way before computers and social media and such so I guess they think I should have hired a town crier or maybe an airplane to pull around one of those signs behind it.
@151949 I felt I had to speak up. I graduated and was married in the pre-Internet 80's People had to physically go to a store to get a gift registry. Maybe for that reason, sending announcement seemed in no way to be a gift grab at all. There was never an assumption that anyone would send a gift when you announced your marriage. None at all.
These days, it might be viewed differently because of Internet registries and online shopping. That just wasn't around when I was married and an announcement was just that - an announcement to tell people that you've been married. You'd might get a congratulations card with a short note from the relative wishing you the best. A few years later, you'd send the birth announcements lol.
Times have changed but I don't think that means you need to exclude relatives from your life for fear of seeming like you want gifts!
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