Community Chat

[lovesrecess]

There is a show on tv that I watched a couple of times....not even sure if it is still on....where three girls plan weddings and then friends attend each one and grade it for venue, food, theme, etc...I think this is the "who can I outdo with my wedding?" competition that is so bad for everyone concerned. Tremendous stress and financial burden for family and friends alike when they are expected to spend thousands just to travel to someplace they may not even care about....some of the best and most beautiful weddings I have ever attended have been small and intimate with just a few friends and the family there. Very special and memorable for all the right reasons.

[Financialgrl]

I have no problem attending a destination wedding if it's a very close family member or long time friend.  The problem I have is I believe that inviting a lot of ppl to a destination wedding knowing the cost involved is just a gift grab bc a couple already knows who will and won't probably come anyway and many ppl send a gift if they plan to attend or not.  

[CelticCrafter]

@lovesrecess - there is one on TLC called Four Weddings - they're strangers.

I can't stand that show.

It's still on, I don't know if they are new or old shows.  

[Sage04]

Years ago my niece had a destination wedding in the Caribbean. She spent many

years there as a child and her grandparents were still living there. Everyone had  a

year and a few months to save for this trip. Some of her friends had never been to the

Caribbean so were very happy to go. I was very surprised to see how many people

travelled for this wedding and everyone had a great time.

Some of the visitors stayed longer because they had planned a vacation around the

wedding.

[CANDLEQUEEN]

We have never been invited to a destination wedding, however if we were I would take into account several things first.

How close are we to the couple or their family?

Is it somewhere I would really love to go, and don't mind the expense and can maybe use vacation time to go a bit early and have some "me" time?

How expensive will it be?

I wouldn't say I would never go, honestly it really depends on the individual circumstances for me.....

[RollTide2008]

I’m currently planning a wedding. We’re getting married where we live. Our hometowns are 400 in opposite directions. For the majority of our guests, this is a destination wedding. For couples like us, I can see the appeal of a destination wedding. If our families are going to travel anyway, maybe they’d rather have a weekend at the beach than in downtown Columbus, OH.

[Lipstickdiva]

Having a destination wedding didn't appeal to me because there were too many people who loved us and wanted to share in our special day, both family and friends, who I would never expect to put out that kind of money, nor could many of them have afforded it.

I only had one sister and my DH 2 siblings but I have a lot of cousins and at the time I got married, many aunts and uncles.  We wanted all of them to share in our special day because they were an important part of my life as I grew up.   To have a destination wedding would have eliminated most of them and for me, my wedding would have been incomplete without my entire family around me.

I've never been to an out of the country destination wedding.  I did get invited to an out of state wedding by a cousin who lived in that state and yes I did go.  We drove. 

My boss and I just had this conversation last week because he was invited to 2 destination weddings this year.  One in Mexico he won't be going to because just for airfare and hotel for his family would be $6,000.00.  He has one in another state he is reluctantly going to.

[Lipstickdiva]

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@RollTide2008 wrote:
I’m currently planning a wedding. We’re getting married where we live. Our hometowns are 400 in opposite directions. For the majority of our guests, this is a destination wedding. For couples like us, I can see the appeal of a destination wedding. If our families are going to travel anyway, maybe they’d rather have a weekend at the beach than in downtown Columbus, OH.

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@RollTide2008, I love Columbus.  LOL But I see your point. 

[ECBG]

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@151949 wrote:

We were invited to best friend's son's wedding in Bermuda. The bride & groom paid ALL expenses of everyone who attended. Charter plane - hotel - meals for 3 days.They only invited a few close family and friends . BTW - they also asked for no gifts . We gave them a silver serving tray engraved with their name as a momento of their wedding & to say thank you for the wonderful time we had.The wedding was on the beach, and was absolutely lovely.

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@151949That's the way a destination wedding should be arranged.  That must be a wonderful couple.