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[lovesrecess]

When my FIL died, we had a couple show up at our house after the funeral for dinner; it was a huge potluck buffet with about 80 people coming and going all afternoon/evening. They filled their plates and sat down and ate...twice. I figured they were friends on my in-laws.....my MIL figured they were friends of ours.....turns out they were not friends of anyone there...no one knew who they were.....and they left before we could talk to them....two free meals.....funeral crashes.....not wedding crashers...sounds like you actually paid for your wedding crashers'

[AuntMame]

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@lovesrecess wrote:
When my FIL died, we had a couple show up at our house after the funeral for dinner; it was a huge potluck buffet with about 80 people coming and going all afternoon/evening. They filled their plates and sat down and ate...twice. I figured they were friends on my in-laws.....my MIL figured they were friends of ours.....turns out they were not friends of anyone there...no one knew who they were.....and they left before we could talk to them....two free meals.....funeral crashes.....not wedding crashers...sounds like you actually paid for your wedding crashers'

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I know a woman who's a funeral crasher. She's done it for years. Mental illness is part of it though the big motivation is free food. She'll show up at funerals for relatives of people she knew in high school and haven't seen in decades, friends of old neighbors, etc. I also think socializing is part of the attraction for her.   

[Miss Shelly]

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@lovesrecess wrote:
When my FIL died, we had a couple show up at our house after the funeral for dinner; it was a huge potluck buffet with about 80 people coming and going all afternoon/evening. They filled their plates and sat down and ate...twice. I figured they were friends on my in-laws.....my MIL figured they were friends of ours.....turns out they were not friends of anyone there...no one knew who they were.....and they left before we could talk to them....two free meals.....funeral crashes.....not wedding crashers...sounds like you actually paid for your wedding crashers'

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This reminds me of someone from my childhood.  I grew up in small coal mining town where everyone knew of everyone.  There was an eccentric man named Fred who lived with his elderly mother.  Fred attended every funeral in town and the reception afterwards.  It was a social event for him.

By the time he died I had moved away, but, they said he had a lot of people come to pay their respects.

[denisemb]

I don't believe in destination weddings and would no tattend one if asked.

I do wholly approve of destination honeymoons, LOL

[lulu1]

Posters frequently complain how much they dislike attending weddings.  Destination weddings are a perfect excuse not to attend.

I've always thought a destination wedding was an easy way for the B & G to keep the reception small.

As others have pointed out, for many guests any wedding becomes a destination.  People no longer stay in their hometowns. There was a time weddings took place at the bride's "home" church.  This is no longer th case.

We were married in 1971 on my husband's college campus.  For all our relatives it was a destination.  My father solved the problem by chartering a bus to bring family and friends.

[Shorty2U]

I think the bride and groom can get married wherever they want, just don't expect everyone to show up at the destination. I think they should take into consideration the aging and unhealthy family members as well as price,.

For instance; My 1 niece got married in the south and we are all from PA and her now husband is from the mid west. We didn't get it, why get married where no one lives? Even her parents weren't thrilled, but they paid for the wedding and agreed to the southern destination.

Long story short, Her mothers parents couldn't go due to age, we didn't go (I don't travel anymore I have a very bad back) and most other family members didn't go. But oh all her jet set friends flew in and she made the remark everyone was there she wanted there. That irked me. And I thought oh well their loss, not mine. (I did send a monetary gift but not as much as I would have given had it been local and we went!)