Declining a wedding - Page 9

CelticCrafter · ‎03-09-2010

Who wants a wedding album filled with photos of people all dressed up wearing blue paper masks? Would they even be recognizable?

We didn't even go to Thanksgiving dinner with family so there is no way I'd be going to a wedding.

Nonametoday · ‎03-09-2010

@happycat wrote:

@Nonametoday wrote:
DH was in a doctor's office today. Workers, patients and family members, there must have been 100 people there. They have very, very large waiting rooms, 3 to be exact and a number of treatment and diagnostic rooms but they are all under the same room and people go in and out from one location to the other. They are only seeing emergency patients right now and thankfully, we were given an appointment but I really fear (once I saw the crowd of emergencies there) that we have or might have been exposed to Covid. It is hard to see that many people in one building albeit a large building. They have the 3 waiting rooms but they are only divided by archways which they built post Covid. We have been there before but never had so many people. It was frightening and yes, they all appeared to be people who had to be seen.
I'm so sorry, @Nonametoday. That must be nervewracking. I am praying that you and your dear husband do not get it.

@happycat

That is most kind of you. I just hope and pray that none of those people there have it. They all had eye injuries or serious complications of their eyes (retina specialists) and so many disabled otherwise. It just seems so sad that anyone has to be exposed to this horrible virus, but especially those with other complicating illnesses who are so vulnerable. Thank you for your prayers. I pray for God to crush this thing each day.

Trinity11 · ‎11-16-2014

It never ceases to amaze me that some are so living in a bubble that they don't realize or care the outcome of such an event.

My son was supposed to marry in September and paid for more than half for the reception but still cared enough about his guests to cancel everything and he lost his deposit. I guess you could say, I am proud of his decision to put others before himself....

@happycat, you are doing the right thing.

Nonametoday · ‎03-09-2010

We have friends who have contracted it at very small funerals.

A friend. long-time church and community member who was, and whose family still is, in our social group, died during recent days an expected death due to long-term dementia.

As this happened during a pandemic, the church which would have normally been packed with standing room only was different. The wife chose no wake and no guests at the funeral. His reality was gone for 2 years, their lives together had been erased from his mind and all who had known the situation had been attentive to assist them in their daily needs. She elected to have no guests attend a funeral where they might contract a virus that could wipe out a small community. So she asked for the youngest pastor to attend the service for her, their only son, his wife and children. Such a thoughtful thing for this lady to do for a community who loved them and who she loved too and paid respect.

happycat · ‎09-18-2010

You should be very proud of your son, @Trinity11. Heck I'm proud of him too, and I don't even know him. I know the brides family had paid for this venue, and I'm sure they don't want to lose the money, but what is a few thousand dollars compared to a life? Or a lifetime of medical problems because of covid?

I thought after a family friend got covid and had to be flown to a different hospital because our local covid ICU unit was full, that they would put off the wedding, or get married at a justice of the peace and have a nice reception later on, but that didn't happen.

Anyway, you raised a man who thinks of others well being and puts them ahead of what he may want, or the money he will be out, and that is something to be proud of.

Trinity11 · ‎11-16-2014

@happycat wrote:
You should be very proud of your son, @Trinity11. Heck I'm proud of him too, and I don't even know him. I know the brides family had paid for this venue, and I'm sure they don't want to lose the money, but what is a few thousand dollars compared to a life? Or a lifetime of medical problems because of covid?
I thought after a family friend got covid and had to be flown to a different hospital because our local covid ICU unit was full, that they would put off the wedding, or get married at a justice of the peace and have a nice reception later on, but that didn't happen.
Anyway, you raised a man who thinks of others well being and puts them ahead of what he may want, or the money he will be out, and that is something to be proud of.

When I asked my son @happycat why he came to his decision he said that so many of the guests were immune compromised and over 65, that he would never risk their lives and would never forgive himself if anyone got sick.

aroc3435 · ‎09-30-2010

@Trinity11 You should certainly be proud of your son's thoughtful, caring decision.

The idea of a wedding is to have the community witness the dedication of the couple to each other so his and his paartner's decision actually reinforces this concept of living and loving within society.

Makes me happy toknow that many do have a respectful, sensitive awareness of the potential for good or ill that their decisions can have.

Best,

aroc3435

Washington, DC

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

Persumably, everyone knows there is a global pandemic and 100 people is a huge risk for someone who is trying to be careful. I don't know the people but I'm sure no one is angry with you. All any wedding needs is the bride, the groom and the officiant. I'd attach a sweet note to the wedding gift and send it off. If you already sent the gift, send them a lovely card and add a note to it.

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

We were invited to a b-day party. The couple rented a hall and were told no more than 30 people. We declined to go and never gave them a reason. I'm sure they could figure it out.

Many people who attended that party became ill. Most aren't getting tested because they have been very vocal about thinking this is all overhyped and a bunch of BS. They also don't want the owners of the hall to get in trouble because in Ohio you are supposed to limit gatherings to 10.

Johnnyeager · ‎09-05-2014

In some localities, such as NYS and NYC, the authorities request and rely on information from the public about knowledge of illegal, underground and/or non-compliant large gatherings. This way they can investigate and shut down the location ahead of time.