Re: Declining a wedding

beach-mom · ‎03-09-2010

@happycat - GOOD CHOICE! We've all missed things. Our hearts were broken this summer when we missed a memorial service for our brother-in-law. We did get up when he died suddenly (brain aneurysm) in February, but his wife and sons decided to postpone the big service until a lot of his friends could get there this past summer. We missed family thanksgiving. We will miss seeing our one nephew's wife expecting completely (she's due any day).

Now - DD's good friend (I'm close to him too) and his large family all got together for Thanksgiving. They are all "in the area." His dad is now in the hospital, so far not on a ventilator, but they will see how he's doing tomorrow. Another relative is also positive. He tested negative. All this since Thanksgiving day.

You are definitely doing the right thing.

ETA: I totally agree with @Tinkerbell3' first paragraph, and with the other posters here who feel the same way!

suzyQ3 · ‎03-09-2010

@gidgetgh wrote:
Ok, I'm in a blunt mood tonight and haven't read the other responses yet.

I think it is unconscionable that they are holding a potential super spreader event in the middle of a raging pandemic. I have massive amounts of disdain for that. Zero respect. None.

I would have absolutely no guilt at all in saying he.. to the no, I'm not going. Easiest decision I'd make all year.

ICU's at or near capacity, overworked medical personnel, but hey none of that matters. The wedding does. I could go further, but I'll stop.

I, too, know how hard it is to speak honestly, @gidgetgh. I'll just say that this has nothing to do with our freedoms or our personal desires.

~Who in the world am I? Ah, that's the great puzzle~ Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

Tinkerbell3 · ‎03-10-2010

Yes, we absolutely have the right to criticize when over 250L people have lost their lives. This is a SUPER SPREADER event!

bonnielu · ‎03-11-2010

You made the right decision since you were uncomfortable going.

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

It was sooo easy to decline a wedding on my husband's side back in October and look at where we are now.

So thankful to not have to *gather* with them for Thanksgiving and Christmas is not an option either.

They are of the ilk, do as we say, but not as we do.

My one sister in law was harping (bitc#ing) for everyone to stay the heck home back in April so she could get back to her barmaid position that her ego depends on.

Don't care to ever see her again!

Love my grandkids · ‎11-24-2013

@Daisy Sunflower I know a couple who got married at their home and had a virtual wedding which I "attended".

It IS possible to get married. Having a big "do", not so much. It's the marriage that matters, not the hoopla.

DottieBlue · ‎03-11-2010

Why not ask the medical professionals at your local hospital if you should attend if you are still in doubt.....

Nonametoday · ‎03-09-2010

DH was in a doctor's office today. Workers, patients and family members, there must have been 100 people there. They have very, very large waiting rooms, 3 to be exact and a number of treatment and diagnostic rooms but they are all under the same room and people go in and out from one location to the other. They are only seeing emergency patients right now and thankfully, we were given an appointment but I really fear (once I saw the crowd of emergencies there) that we have or might have been exposed to Covid. It is hard to see that many people in one building albeit a large building. They have the 3 waiting rooms but they are only divided by archways which they built post Covid. We have been there before but never had so many people. It was frightening and yes, they all appeared to be people who had to be seen.

kittyr99 · ‎12-07-2014

I declined my best friend's daughters wedding & shower. She is also my Godchild. I sent nice gifts for both occasions. Don't feel bed. All big groups of people should be avoided. Be safe!