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[queendiva]

@justashopper : More info, please. 

Just the two of you or are others invited? Out to lunch or at her place?

If i was not excited about the invite I would give no excuse, just respectfully decline the invitation and thank the neighbor for thinking of me, Merry Christmas, etc.

[Love my grandkids]

@justashopper I don't know where people get the idea they are "terrible" for not wanting to do something.

Just say "Sorry, I can't make it. Have a nice time." 

NO excuse or reason is necesary. No is a complete sentence.

[justashopper]

Hi @queendiva 

I called her to check to see if she needed anything because we are expecting storms-- like a lot of the country.  And she offered me to join a lunch at a restuarant with her and another of her friends later that day.  

[justashopper]

Hi @Love my grandkids 

You are so right.  I don't know why I felt so bad about it.  Its one lunch.  LOL

[justashopper]

Hi @kaydee50 

That's right.  We all owe it to ourselves to protect and respect our space and needs, too!  Thank you!

[justashopper]

Hi @Sooner 

OK!!!

Thanks!!

[justashopper]

hi @On It 

Yes.  Thank you.  short and sweet.  to the point. 

[beckyb1012]

I say "no thank you" to any invite I do not care to attend.  I used to feel so obligated to go  to all but with being older I no longer feel that way.  Today I am saying no to a catered Christmas lunch barbecue feast only because I know it would ruin my appetite for tonight's festivities.  Priority to the event I care the most about.  Not to mention all those extra calories.  Remember your time is important and how you want to spend it and explanations are not required to anyone.

[Lisa now in AZ]

I agree with those who said no excuse or reason is necessary. Just, thanks for thinking of me, but I can't make it is more than enough. And make sure to enjoy your day off by doing, or not doing, whatever you want!

[justashopper]

Hi @beckyb1012 

You bring up a good point.  I don't want to eat two meals out in one day.  Too many calories in one day if I go out to dinner as I planned.  My sleep will be messed up by it, too.

It's hard during the holidays to not gain a few pounds.... LOL