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Hi

I am looking for some opinions.  Do you think it's wrong to decline an invitation to lunch, if you just don't really enjoy the company?  It's not that I don't like the person (a neighbor) and I do like being friendly... but I'd rather not socialize like that. 

 

Do you accept all invitations?  Just because they asked? What if it's not how you want to spend your day off?

 

I am trying to decide if I am a terrible person.. LOL.  thanks.  

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I probably would have when I was younger.

 

But since I am older if I dont want to go for whatever reason I just decline.  I usually dont give a reason, I dont think we have to justify our decision.

 

  In your case you can most certainly use your day off as an excuse.  You just have too many things to accomplish in 1 day, but thank you for thinking of me.

 

When I worked I was very selfish with my days off, especially when my kids were young.

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@justashopper wrote:

Hi

I am looking for some opinions.  Do you think it's wrong to decline an invitation to lunch, if you just don't really enjoy the company?  It's not that I don't like the person (a neighbor) and I do like being friendly... but I'd rather not socialize like that. 

 

Do you accept all invitations?  Just because they asked? What if it's not how you want to spend your day off?

 

I am trying to decide if I am a terrible person.. LOL.  thanks.  


 

 

 

@justashopper  No, you are not a terrible person.

 

If you accept all invitations, when you don't want to in the first place, you will soon find yourself worn out and resentful. Just give a polite no. It is okay.

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@Regal Bee 

 

Hi and thank you. 

 

 

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Hi @Imaoldhippie 

 

Thanks.  You're right.  

 

 

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hi @justashopper 

 

No you're not a terrible person.  I would decline and say it's my day off and I have so much to catch up on so it doesn't work for me.  

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Hi @mspatmac 

 

Thank you!  

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@justashopper   You are NOT a terrible person.  Your time and feelings are at least as important, if not more so, than anyone else's.  Make a polite excuse, i.e, you don't feel up to it or whatever, and don't give it a second thought.

 

 

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@justashopper You are a terrible person to yourself if you think you have to do everything people want you to do!  Get over that!  Now!  Woman Very Happy  OK?  

 

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@justashopper Feel confident in declining. A simple "I am sorry, but I can't be there. I hope you all have a wonderful lunch."