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[Silver Lining]

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@RoughDraft wrote:

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@Sooner wrote:

Being the well-trained and well-bred Southern lady I am, I would simply pay the check, shake his hand, bid him good night and have the maitre'de call me a cab, and throw him out of the restaurant if he hung around and didn't get the message.  

That would settle that little fiasco.  

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I can understand your genteel background and grace, but how could you shake his hand if he'd already skipped out of the restaurant?

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I think @Sooner meant if the guy said he wouldn't or couldn't pay all or part of the bill, she would just proceed as she stated in her post. She would pay the bill, shake hands, and leave. See ya, wouldn't want to be ya, LOSER! Correct me if my interpretation is wrong.

[Suhse]

Never had a date bail, but, once I almost did😉I'd dated this guy a few times.  He was very attractive, attentive, fun to be around. I liked him, but, I was not at all sure I wanted it to go further and I was getting strong vibes that he did.  

We went to a nice small,intimate restaurant. He,  Apparently decided he was going to show off,or, his idea of it. From the moment we walked in the door, he was an arrogant jerk, to the staff. The hostess, the waiter, the wine steward. Just a total ass!

I called him on it and he told me "this is how you make sure the staff knows their place" . I didn't want to create a scene, in the moment, but, it was SO our last date.  

[suzyQ3]

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@Suhse wrote:

Never had a date bail, but, once I almost did😉I'd dated this guy a few times.  He was very attractive, attentive, fun to be around. I liked him, but, I was not at all sure I wanted it to go further and I was getting strong vibes that he did.  

We went to a nice small,intimate restaurant. He,  Apparently decided he was going to show off,or, his idea of it. From the moment we walked in the door, he was an arrogant jerk, to the staff. The hostess, the waiter, the wine steward. Just a total ass!

I called him on it and he told me "this is how you make sure the staff knows their place" . I didn't want to create a scene, in the moment, but, it was SO our last date.  

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“A person who is nice to you, but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person" -- Dave Barry

[cherry]

@Suhsewhat did he think their place was, exactly? He sounds like a total snob. The staff were probably worth 10 of him

[Desertdi]

I have dated some of the cheapest men on the planet.   One of them took me out for hors d'oeuvres...........AT COSTCO

[SunValley]

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@Desertdi wrote:

I have dated some of the cheapest men on the planet.   One of them took me out for hors d'oeuvres...........AT COSTCO

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Oh, that is bad. I was with my cousin at Costco and a strange man shoved a half eaten sample in her face and asked if she wanted a bite. We still laugh about that. Where do these men get the idea that this is acceptable.

I had a date in college who took me to a dance--at a high school. Last date with him. Turns out he paid these kids in beers to steal tires from gas stations that he then resold. Pathetic.

Edited to add that then he stalked me for 6 months. I just didn't know what to call it back then. He freaked me out.

[RoughDraft]

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@Silver Lining wrote:

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@RoughDraft wrote:

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@Sooner wrote:

Being the well-trained and well-bred Southern lady I am, I would simply pay the check, shake his hand, bid him good night and have the maitre'de call me a cab, and throw him out of the restaurant if he hung around and didn't get the message.  

That would settle that little fiasco.  

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I can understand your genteel background and grace, but how could you shake his hand if he'd already skipped out of the restaurant?

edited for typo

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I think @Sooner meant if the guy said he wouldn't or couldn't pay all or part of the bill, she would just proceed as she stated in her post. She would pay the bill, shake hands, and leave. See ya, wouldn't want to be ya, LOSER! Correct me if my interpretation is wrong.

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You're probably right @Silver Lining.  I interpreted the original OP's question as the date skipping out before the check was presented, leaving his date to pick up the tab.  I see there have been additional posts about different kinds of dead beat dates.  Shame on me for being a concrete thinker...not my best attribute.  I see Sooner hearted your explanation.

[151949]

I went on a blind date once that skipped out on the bill. I did not have enough money to pay the check either so I had to call my parents to bring me money. That was back before bank credit cards, when people actually paid for stuff with money. 

[Tinkrbl44]

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@RoughDraft wrote:

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@Sooner wrote:

Being the well-trained and well-bred Southern lady I am, I would simply pay the check, shake his hand, bid him good night and have the maitre'de call me a cab, and throw him out of the restaurant if he hung around and didn't get the message.  

That would settle that little fiasco.  

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I can understand your genteel background and grace, but how could you shake his hand if he'd already skipped out of the restaurant?

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@RoughDraft     

I saw Sela Ward on a talk show a while back, and she told the hosts that she was "southern and well-bred" THREE times in what was about a ten minute interview.   It was nothing short of tacky .... definitely not well bred by any means.  

[151949]

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@ROMARY wrote:

OMGosh..........I don't ever recall paying for anything while dating (a hundred years ago, lol).  Even the high school guys (young men) saved their money from working Summer jobs, and always seemed to have plenty of money for dates.  Movies, plays, 'the best' restaurants, some in posh hotel dining rooms, etc., etc.  Always plenty of saved-up money in those days, and they often had nice, precious (to them), perfectly restored cars.  'Where there is will, there is a way'.  

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When we were in high school my boyfriend - now my husband - always had a job but he was saving for college so we couldn't go out much. Our dates were things like an occasional movie but mostly hanging around at home or in the park or at a teen club in our neighborhood. More hanging out with our friends than anything else. Besides we both had school, a job and we were both trying to get a schlorship so there wasn't much time for going out anywhere. His Mom did buy him a car because she did not drive and his Dad had passed away so she needed him to take her places.